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okay. me and this boy named will, LOVE each other. we fight everyday but always say sorry. but today, one of his friends says love=trust. he asked me if i trusted him, i said yeah just not with heather (his ex girl friend for a YEAR AND A HALF) so that gives me a reason not to. but i trust him. then he was like then you dont love me, and i was like yes i do.. then he was like i love you so much but its going anywhere, we fight everyday. and then i was like yeah but you said we fight because we care and he was like well i was roung we fight because I care not you. then he said whatever forget you. thats where i started to cry! =( now me and him are in a HUGE fight over that. i really love him. but now i think its over with us. =( do you think it is? what should i do? should i still love him or let what we had go ?
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you should tell him that you love him (in a note or e-mail) and that you trust him but girls have trouble trusting their boyfriends with their ex girlfriends. and that you really want him not to be mad at him for a misunderstanding and that you are sorry. and if he truely loves you or cares for you he will understand. but if he can't understand you need to move on.
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Mmm.. sounds like its over but if your really in love he'll come back to you. I've been in this situation. Let it go for a couple weeks and he'll realize he misses you and loves you especially if you tell him you've moved on. Then he'll realize how much he misses you when he can't have you and if you end up starting up with him again he's gonna be a lot better about fighting and stuff. Don't let everything you had with him go.. just kind of put it away for a little bit and still love him.
I hope I helped..
This sounds like a tough situation so good luck.
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it kinda sounds like your boy has some issues. maybe you might want to discuss exactly what he (not his friends) would define love as. one point that you might like to bring up is that trust might not be the only difining factor in love. for example: we trust alan greenspan with the path of our country's economy, but do we feel true passion for him? trust can help a person stand strong and i have many friends that i trust, but real good love makes you feel strong and also makes your spine tingle and your knees feel weak. and that takes a little something extra.
sometimes i think people confuse the concept of trust with faith. people often "trust" in things when they are certain of it and can predict what can happen. on the other hand, people often turn to faith when they can't explain how something will turn out but are willing to go on anyway. one has to do with what you know, the other has to do with what you believe.
i you are fighting all the time, maybe you might want to ask him (and yourself) what it is you find special about the two of you. fighting doesn't feel good, and hopefully, you two can find time to talk. it is important that both your views can be heard and it's important that you and he do not take each other for granted.
from how you described it, it sounds like will is in some kind of hurry. you might want to ask him what's up with that. if his answer has anything to do with "my friend said..." you might want to start questioning his motivation. relationships that have a lot of conflict can survive but it does take alot of work and both of you have to be willing to find each other when the dust clears.
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