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What to say?
Well, I started going out with this girl since Friday, right? I really like her, and she really likes me, but I can't seem to know what to say because I'm sitting at her table with all of her friends at lunch now. I can't really relate to her friends, girls OR guys. Today was the first day I sat at her table though, and I held her in my arms during lunch after we ate our food. I didn't speak much to anyone, even my girlfriend. I said I was sorry I didn't talk today too much because I was tired. Any suggestions on what I should do? I'm sort of a video gamer, and she and her friends aren't, so I'm not sure what to say to her sometimes at lunch or to her friends. Please, any suggestions on what to say, do when I'm around her, and say around her and her friends? Sorry this was a long post, but I really need help on this one. I'm 15/M, and she's 14/F.
Thanks!
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You should just stay calm aroud her and be your self. don't change for her friends. If you are a quiet person then you should just listen. maybe you could learn about what they are talkin about at lunch and maybe you could relate to some of it. Don't forget The whole reason she went out with you is because she likes you for who you are. You should not have to change yourself. Good Luck.
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When in doubt...always ASK about her and her life!
Guys think questions are nosey. Girls thinks questions mean you care!
NEVER talk about yourself unless she seems interested first.
You might want to read Dale Carnegies "How to Win Friends and Influence People." It will help you seem like the worlds most interesting person and really, it's just a book on how to care about OTHER people! It won't just help you with Girls! It will help you with every relationship in your life!
At least TRY it and let me know what happens!
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The best thing to say when you've nothing at all to say is 'what about this wheather we've been having. If she wont include you in conversation then she is not worth it. Another way to take the focus off you is to ask questions even if you dont care about the answers cause thats the best way to start conversation and pretend you are intersted.
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Ok... What you need to do is just sit there... you dont really have to say anything to begin with. But dont stay that way... i mean yeah sit down, say "hi" or "hey" you know... just show them that you're there and you DO talk :-p ... then wait for someone to say something that you can relate too... a movie or something on T.V. or a teacher or whatever... talk about things that everyone knows... and throw in there that your a gamer if it comes up in the conversation... you never know if her OR her friends can relate to a game. But yeah... if you feel you dont belong just wait for someone to say something you know alittle about and speak your mind on it. Good luck and live strong!!!
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You don't always have to sit with her. Have her sit with your friends at your table every other day. If you spend some time around her friends you'll get to know them and find things that you have in common with them. It will be awkward at first, but just give it a little time. She really needs to get to know your friends though too. If she sits with you at your table she will know how you feel when you sit at her table. If you both understand each other's feelings and talk about it together, you can make this into something that you get through together with each other's support and encouragement. I hope I was able to help and good luck!
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