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Not a crush... I think it's love.
I am 13 year old boy in the 7th grade and I met this incredible girl over the summer. I had asked her out, but she wasn't allowed to date, yet I got her phone number. I still wasn't sure if she liked me as I liked her. Because as school came around I felt closer to her.I asked her out again during school, yet she still couldn't date!!!!!!! We have our last period together and we sit next to each other. Neither of us are very social at that time. I don't know if she feels the way I feel because I can feel this in no crush... I am in love with her. I need advice on when to ask, her where to ask her, what to ask her to, and if she can go how should I dress and what should I bring.
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Dude, I was the same way. I had asked a girl out a while ago and she said her parents wouldn't let her date. We have 7th hour together (Vocal Music) and we sit by each other. Actually I wrote a song for her and whatever. I asked her out 2 days ago at a cast party for this school play I'm in. You have to ask her out to a party or something. The girl I asked out said Probably yes and she hasnt told me an official answer yet. Yeah, or you could do something else. Just give it time and make sure she doesn't know you like her until maybe Valentine's Day. Get her a box of chocalates then and ask her out to a movie. Also, DO NOT give her a poem if you are unsure she will like it or if it has something your not sure about in it. Don't show off either. Girls HATE it when people show off. I feel the same way you do about a girl and I hope my advice helps you. Good luck.
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*Sigh* first loves. Ask her to hang out with some of her friends and some of your friends around. That way you won't have awkward silences. And as you two get closer, start hanging out alone more and more often. Truth or Dare is an awesome way to break the ice, and a great way to get closer to her. =]
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awww you do love her, that is such a nice feeling isnt it? i think you're a little bit young to actually be in love with her, but you definitly love her.
tell her on a friday in the class you have with her, right before the bell.. so if things get awkward, the bell rings and you leave. plus, if its a friday, she has the whole weekend to get used to the idea, cause girls need to be firm in what they know for sure. if she can't date yet, ask her to a school dance or ask her out for pizza and a movie..(sit to the right of her,thats always better)just make sure you act normal, dont get all worked up and nervous. if you really love her, then you will be ready to tell her the way you feel. and dont get too serious if ya'll start going out on dates, because rushing things is quite a thriller for a girl, but in the end, theres a chance she gets what she wants of you and drops you like a hot potatoe...
and, make sure you arent too serious, because if you two act like your dating without actually dating, then what happens when you do actually date? for example: if you two made out when you were just friends, then it wouldnt be special when you made out as a couple.
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Now now 13 is an odd age. your body is always messing with your brain. I got this smae thing, i used to dream with making out with him and crap and you know what? It was a crush. And it is a time of change, you never know you may end up growing out of your "love". Oh and don't try too hard to make her like you or she will see right through it. juts act like yourself, as hard as it may be.
~blackstar~
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If she's not allowed to date, you should hold back on asking her out. You don't want her to constantly have to keep reminding you, since that might annoy her or remind her that she really isn't allowed (possibly a tad depressing for her). I suggest you tell her that you care about her, but that you realize that you can only be friends and you're okay with that. If you truly do care about her the way you say you do, you'll understand that she can't help her parents decisions, and that you should be happy to simply be friends. Eventually, as time goes on, she will be allowed to date, and if you're friends, maybe you'll be the one she chooses, since you've been kind enough to be such a friend.
As for the rest of your question, if she finally is allowed to date, don't try to kiss her right away on your date (since you mentioned that you think about that, and really, if she's never dated before you might really scare her). Wear what you normally wear, perhaps slightly tidier, since it's you she likes, not your clothes (I'm sure you think the same of her). As for where to go, you're 13, so I think something fun would be a good idea. Like mini-putt or go-karting, so the situation isn't so incredibly pressure filled (those activities are fun and light, and are generally surrounded by people, which helps to glaze over those first-datey awkward situations.)
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ok, just tell her that going out doesnt mean going to the movies and whatnot, its like, talking to them online or on the phone and carrying her books in school (which she should like hehehehe ) and if she finally can go out, then do something casual, jeans and a shirt ya know? ok good luck :)
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First of all, not to burst your bubble, but can she date? You might want to worry about that first before you ask her out. If she can, then I think you need to tell her a lot what you told me. Maybe send her a poem and do the anonymous thing if you're too afraid to be revealed right away. I'm a girl myself, and girls love a guy with a sensitive side who really cares about them. If you do ask her out, ask her during that period yall have together but make sure no ones around to sway the answer. If you're too afraid to ask her face to face, then call her. Considering you're only in 7th grade, I'd say ask her to dinner and a movie or just one. If she can go, wear something nice but casual. Trust me, she's not going to be too dressed up so it'll be awkward if you are. Also, this girl is really lucky to have a sweet guy like you so into her, and you're right, I think this may be your first love. Good luck and hope it goes well. I'd be interested to see how it turned out. :)
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