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Orgasms without touching
Hello! I am a 21 yr old female and I have never had an orgasm during intercourse. However, I have also never had an orgasm with masturbation. When I was 14 or 15, I began to have orgasms without touching -- usually they happen when I get into bed and roll onto my side. I don't necessarily even have to be thinking about anything to make them happen.
I've shared this with a few of my friends and they don't really believe me. They say that if I haven't had an orgasm during sex, then how do I know I'm having one just by rolling over in bed. I don't know what to say -- I just know that whatever it is that's happening I like it. I used to get "orgasms" like this every night (now I'm taking anti-depressants and don't get them at all).
Are women able to orgasm without any physical stimulation? Is it possible that I'm NOT orgasming in this manner? OR is it possible that I've had an orgasm during sex, but just because it doesn't feel like what I've always THOUGHT was an orgasm I don't recognize it as one? Also, I recently started taking anti-depressants and I have not been able to orgasm (or what I think are orgasms) at all. I know this is a common symptom, but is there a way to get passed it?
I know I've asked a lot, but I'm just really confused! Thank you!
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Okay, let's see if I can break this down and answer some of your questions. First, you're right - a common side effect of anti-depressants is a lowering in arousal and an inability to orgasm (in both men and women). The only person who can help you with this is your doctor; some anti-depressents might not affect you this way, or your dosage may be able to be tweaked to help your body function more normally.
As for having orgasms without being touched, yes, it happens. Some women will experience orgasms during sexy dreams, thoughts, etc.
If you had had an orgasm during sex, there is a general sort of assumption that you would have known it. Because you have not felt 'that way' during sex, you genuinely might not have had an orgasm. Equally, you genuinely may have had orgasms without any overt sexual simulation.
Orgasms are uncharted territory, particularly with women. They vary in intensity, how easy/difficult it is to have them, if female ejaculation happens, if they can have multiple orgasms, etc. It's hard to give very specific advice about them because of this.
I understand your confusion, but you are the best judge as to what you have felt - regardless of what your friends say.
The biggest obstacle to helping yourself achieve orgasms is your medication. I would see your doctor as soon as possible - he or she is probably used to people having this problem and should be able to recommend a cours of action that will help. Without being able to physically orgasm at all, it's hard to be able to explore yourself more in depth (emotionally and physically).
Best of luck.
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