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mother doing marijuana
A few days ago I was at my boyfriend's house. We were in the living room and he turned to me and said "I think I can smell marijuana". (He knows the smell because his sister did it once when she was in highschool) So he concluded that his mother must be doing it since he had found a bag of it in her drawer two years ago. He also added that one of her workers comes over to drink and then spends the night. He believes that the guy who spends the night is her "supplier." The next day when she was gone, he went into her room and looked into the drawer where she had kept it two years ago. Sure enough he found some. We both do not condone drugs and I asked him to talk to her about it. He did not want to do that. So we decided the next best thing to do would be to throw it away. So we did that. Then today I asked him if she's still doing it. And he said he didnt know and decided to check her drawer. He found another bag that she had gone out and bought. Finally, he decided to confront her but she was not home. So we went over to my house and then I get a call on my home phone from his mother. She started asking him if he looked through her drawers to which he said yes. And she said "Well where is my stuff!" And then he said she shouldnt be doing it and hung up on her. Now he is at home but she is sleeping. And I was wondering what the BEST possible solution of dealing with this is? And should he keep letting her do it even if he doesnt like it? Or should he get her help or try to stop her from doing it? Please answer this urgently. Thanks.
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First off getting rid of her stash probably wasn't the best thing to do, it'll just annoy her and it sounds like she's got the money to get more. Your boyfriend should sit down and tell his mum how he feels about it. She probably won't stop doing it but she might stop doing it when he's around or at least make it less noticeable to him.
It doesn't sound like your boyfriend's mum's in any great danger so if I wouldn't advise you or your boyfriend to try and get her professional help. She would need to want it for it to be any good anyway. Just because someone smokes marijuana doesn't mean they'll start spending all their money on crack.
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I definitely think he should not let this go on any further that it already has. First he needs to try to talk to his mother alone, about this problem. If that doesn't work..he should tell someone. If you and his mother are close, you COULD try talking to her if you wanted..However, I don't think you should get involved with this. Even though he is your b/f, you might get yourself into some serious complications. If your b/f knows the guys name who he thinks is supplying his mom with the drugs, he could tell the police or an adult about it..they could check in on him and see if he really is doing what you think.
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Your best bet is to not get involved because even though he is your boyfriend and you care about him, what his mother does is not really your business. He needs to handle this himself if he has such a problem with it.
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He shoudln't let this problem go he shoudl talk to someone about it and try to get her help. Smokeing marijuna can lead to doing other serious drugs that can cause death. If she keeps doing it all her money will go to her smoking habit and eventually there not going to have any money to buy things like need like food,clothes ect.
sorry i cant give you any numbers to call or sites, but maybe he can talk to the school counsler and s/he can give him some advice..and he dont have to say his mom is doing it he can always say he thinks someone is doing and he wants to try and get them help.
hopefuly i helped ya!
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