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I'm a really self-conscious person and I admit that I am, and I know that it's bad but it's just how I am and people can't exactly change how they are, you know? My boyfriend jokes around a lot with me. We're friends first, and then we're a couple. I've known him nearly all of my life and I grew up with him. He knows that I care a lot about what people think of me. Sometimes, he tells me that I'm fat, but I know that he's just joking because I'm the furthest thing from "fat" and my body is perfectly fine. But sometimes, I don't like it. Him saying that makes me feel self-conscious and almost makes me want to believe it. He says it so often that it hurts me sometimes and I start to believe that he's telling the truth. It's weird that I feel this way when I know that I'm perfectly fine and..I don't know. I don't like it. I don't want to tell him because I know that he'll take it hard and want to apologize like crazy to me, knowing that it hurt me. I don't want to be the one to tell him..and I don't want him to know. But I don't really know what to do. He says it almost everyday and I just laugh and tell him to shut up or tell him that I hate him, jokingly of course, but he doesn't know how I feel about it. He didn't say it today, so maybe I'm just overreacting, but I feel really down after he says it. I know that this is the most ridiculous thing, but I've been thinking about it. What should I do?
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First of all, don't start thinking differently about yourself because of what he says. What's important is feeling good about yourself. Okay, now for your question. I know telling him will probably hurt him, but sooner or later he's going to have to know or you'll get more paranoid and start to think you're fat. Just sit him down and try to explain that in a relationship, you can't put each other down even if you're joking. It'll just hurt both of y'all because you dont know when to draw the line. I think he should apologize to you for all this so dont feel bad to think that he'll do that. Sounds like a great guy so just be honest and you cant go wrong. I hope i helped and good luck!!!
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