Question Posted Tuesday September 13 2005, 11:03 pm
15/f
Okay theres this guy Jake(16/m). I met him during summer school gym class. He seemed to really like me and I like him. Everyday, we would laydown together during a 20 minute brake time twice a day on a big gym mat, it never failed. He always hung out with me and wanted to be around me. He always hugged me. He would tease me and hug me close when he was really sweaty as a joke. Then after it ended, we didnt talk for about a month. Then when school started, I thought maybe it was just a summer thing, but on the first day, he came up to me at lunch and gave me the biggest hug. He always comes up to me in the hallway and he loves to tickle my sides. He always gives me a hug good bye. Hes invited me to 2 of his soccer games. He sat with me and my friends at the football games. A few girls have told me they think he likes me...
but it hasnt progressed. I dont know if there is a reason he hasnt like asked me to the movies or to homecoming or anything. Hes never called me. One girl told me he does that to every girl... but I dont think so because she is a very jealous girl who liked him and tried to get close to him, but he only wanted to hang out with me. I just dont know if its harmless flirting or if he is really intrested... please give me your opinion!
Thanks
-Kristin
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? ScratchesOnTheWall answered Wednesday September 14 2005, 5:21 pm: That is a tricky one. On the one hand the signs look pretty good but on the other there are some guys who will flirt like this, picking one girl out at a time to lavish attention on. But on the other, other hand (yeah i have three) the fact it's gone on so long suggests it's not just a passing phase....oh wait, i have another hand- the fact you didn't talk for a while might mean he sees your friendship as more casual than you do...ok i'm done with hands.
I think your best game plan is to test the situation- get onto the subject of dating, flirting, bf/gfs and use your feminine wiles to subtly test the waters. Find out where he stands on the issues generally and then whether he has anyone specific in mind. Hopefully this will give you a bit more information to plan your next move.
On the contact thing, perhaps when he invites you to another game, tell him you're not sure whether you can go and that you'll let him know- good excuse to get his number. (cunning as a fox, me)
xRoOxiSxBlOnDex answered Wednesday September 14 2005, 9:39 am: Awww, it sounds like he really does like you! Just ask him about it! Really, you guys are friends so it's not like you need to worry that he's going to think that you're some random stranger or something.
Or if you're pretty confident, try asking HIM out. Just casually say that you should go to a movie or something. Then you guys can hang out and hopefully talk about it and figure out what's going on. Good luck!!
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ChOcOLoLo answered Wednesday September 14 2005, 1:09 am: hey! i really do believe that he is interested in you. he's really kind to you, and always wants to be around you. the best thing to do is talk to him about it, and tell him how you feel, because the more time is wasted the lesser chance you will have of being him. And for some guys, when they have to wait too long for a girl, they easily give up and don't really see that girl in the same way again. so be honest with him, and tell him how you feel. do you like him? you should go for it!!! [ ChOcOLoLo's advice column | Ask ChOcOLoLo A Question ]
karenR answered Wednesday September 14 2005, 12:44 am: It sounds as if hes interested. You might want to just ask him out and see what happens. I don't think it will be a problem. :) [ karenR's advice column | Ask karenR A Question ]
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