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Bi-couple
Me and my gf got along for one year. we been going out for.. but lately it`s gotta very grry. we broke up cause of this. But got together saying we wouldnt fight and all. well agrue. I love her alot. But i dunno how to talk to her bout it. She`s a lovely girl. And she loves me also. Can we still make this happen? Or is fate telling us this is all we have?
16 f Canada
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All couples have their little arguments. However, you shouldn't always be warring with each other and if it's getting physical or extreme, it's time to take a meaningful step back.
The best way to start is by thinking of why you get angry/defensive. Even if you didn't start it or are being wrongly accused, fire just feeds fire. If you know something is going to set you off, you need to figure out how to recognize it's about to happen and finds peaceful ways of dealing with it.
Then, with your gf, you need to have a discussion of how you can make things improve. This discussion has at least three rules: 1. No accusing or hear-says 2. No general statements (saying "let's not fight" is nice, but unreasonable as a total statement) 3. The discussion never ends. If you feel you've covered the big stuff, then agree on ending that session of discussion but remember to leave the option for further discussions open. Nothing is set in stone and sometimes the unexpected happens.
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you can onlly make it happen if you want it to happen.
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Aww, I think you just need to let time pass, and see how things go. Stay close and be friends. But, just wait a while - like a couple weeks or even months. Maybe later on you both will realize that you two need each other, you know you want her, and she probably still wants you. So, all I have to say is just wait a while & then after a couple weeks ask her what exactly happened to you two.
You probably still can make it happen, you guys were dating for such a long time & it's not going to take a few days for yall to get over each other. If you want you could just ask her right away about what happened. But it might make her sad you bringing it up! Good luck!
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