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my fathers threatening to kill my mother
SIREN CYTHEREA PLEASE HELP!!! sorry if this is long but i REALLY need help. my parents have been planning to get a divorce for the longest time.. but my mom is really scared of my dad thats why she never did.. but shes finally going through with it. however we seriously think my dad has pyschological problems.. hes been in a great depression after he lost his job, years ago. their selling the house and my dad isnt going to let my mom have a penny from it. he wants to win the house.. and hes said that he'll fight untill death untill he wins the house.. he said he doesnt care if my mom has 100 lawyers.. she still wont get any share of the house. my dad is trying to sell it and he has everything under HIS names..and he has another account that he doesnt use.. so can he really win the house??
hes hit my mom before and me and my siblings.. hes not letting my mom use the car so she has to ride a bike to work.. and he hid her passports and everything.. my mom got a lawyer.. but today they were arguing again and my mom had to call the police because my dad was threatening to kill her.. but he denied it and the police couldnt do anyhting. he also taps into the house phone and listens to everyones phone calls, which is an evasion of privacy because hes convinced that my mom has cheated. one night i had to sleep with my sister in my room, locked, with a knife underneath my bed. were all terrified and we know he is going to do something crazy.. because there is something pyschologically wrong with him..sooner or later hes just going to snap.. because NOONE is on his side and hes going to lose custody of us and everything so hes crazy.. we have to do something before it gets worse..my friends mom is telling us to get an order of protection and get him taken from the house.. but if we do that will only make things worse and he will probably try and kill my mom if he comes out.. PLEASE HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!
by the way i live in new york so the laws may be different.
and also the divorce wont happen for months.. untill around December so what do we do untill then.. and if we sell the house where will me and my mom live.. because she cant afford that much.
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Just so you know, there isn't a lot I can help with - this is a very serious problem, and it's going to take more than an advice columnist to help you all work it out.
I'm gonna try my best, but I guarantee nothing. ^^
Your friend's mom is right, I think. You should get an order of protection and get him taken from the house. He definitely has some mental issues that could blow up into a lot more than they already have, and at this point it's dangerous to continue being around him.
Also, unfortunately, this is a problem I don't think you can actually help fix. He has real psychological issues and they need to be taken care of by a psychiciatrist, and you and your mother and your sister need to get him out of your lives.
What you and your sister can do for now, until your mother makes some decisions, is maybe stay with a friend for awhile. Get away from your dad.
I don't know, honestly, if your dad can actually win the house or not. I think a lot of it really depends on how good your mother's lawyer is.
I'm sorry there isn't more I can say or do to help you. My best advice is for all of you to get away. Get the police involved, too, in any way you can.
I'm sorry this is happening to you. It's a terrible thing to have to deal with. I may not be able to offer a lot of advice in this situation, but I can listen - if you need someone talk to, my screen name is SirenCytherea.
I hope this helps on some level.
-Siren =)
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