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"Breaking it off"
Hoe do I break up with a guy with out hurting him too much? Especially if he's kinda sensitive, because I don't wanna deal with the emotional roller-coaster that I've been riding lately, and I don't think either of us are really mature enough for a relationship at this point, but how do I tell him all this without bruising his ego or breaking his heart or something?
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there's no easy way to say it's over... so just come out and say i think we should just be friends and when he says why tell him the truth dont say something like its not u its me.. tell him the truth it will ease the pain a little more... hope i helped
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I think that you should just tell him that you just wanna be friends now and i think that he'll understand what you mean.
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I'm sorry, but there's pretty much no way to avoid bruising his ego and breaking his heart.
The best you can do is give him an excuse for himself, something he can concentrate on. If you tell him that you need to break up with him because the relationship is too intense, he'll almost certainly tell himself that it wasn't his fault - you just couldn't handle the intensity of his love.
One more thing: DON'T say "let's be friends" or anything like it. Please. There's no phrase in the world that's better at crushing a guy's heart. Just look a bit sad when you break up with him, so he can imagine that your heart is broken at the prospect of losing him.
That should console him a little.
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Breaking it off kindly is not always the easiest thing to do. If you're too nice, the guy will hang around you and still have hopes that you two will get back together. Then again I can understand you not wanting to hurt his feelings. I have several times tried to take the nice way out and say you need time to think about the relationship...I would advise against that. Just tell him that you're not ready for a relationship, you have too many other things in your life at the moment. If you don't want to bruise his ego, bruise your own. Place the blame all on yourself and say he was perfect but you have some things that you need to work out. Assure him there is no one else on your mind (even if there is) and tell him that you just need time to yourself. Do not leave him with any false hopes of the two of you getting back together. Breaking up is a pain and I wish for once a guy would do me the favor first...I try so hard to make them first but I never luck out. Good luck. I'm still trying to get out a measley 4 month relationship...he's a bit crazy...one thing in my favor is he's from Brazil and he goes back there tomorrow since he was only here for me. Take care
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You can just tell him that you need a time out and that you need time to mature a bit more before having a serious relationship with him. Tell him to give you time and for now to just be friends and get to know each other a bit better.
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