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I cheated...Please help me...I am so confused!
ok here goes, i have been friends with my best friend for 4 years. two years into our friendship we got a little serious, we started hanging out more and eventually we kissed. this made us even closer. later on we hooked up. though we were so close we decided not to go any further with our "relationship" because he had a girlfriend. We have remained good friends and recently, we hooked up again. during 'it' we stopped cause he said it didnt feel right, but i didnt want to. he has a girlfriend of 1 yr and i have a bf for 2 years. i want him so bad i cant stand it. and we hardly ever get to see each other anymore because of our signifigant others. but he is ALWAYS on my mind....i dont kno wat to do, what do i say? tell him how i feel and risk it all? i know i cheated but i dont regret it...im so confused! PLEASE help! please dont erase!
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First and foremost cheating is wrong. It's the worst thing you could do to another person, especially someone who cares so much about you. You say you don't regret it, I'm the type of person who doesn't regret things either, but you should DEF. learn from your mistakes. You say you don't care for your boyfriend much anymore so you should just break it off with him. Apparently your best friend doesn't care too much for his girlfriend either, so he should cut it off with her. Then you both will be free and able to date each other. Although you have to also look at it like this. He's been with this girl for a year and you've been with your boy for two years... that's a long time for young relationships. You'd think that there would be much more trust and honesty in these relationships. The thing you have to think about is, you both are cheating so how do you know that when you two get together that he won't cheat again? Or you won't cheat again? I know it's really hard to think about what will happen and life is all about chances so if he's who you want to be with then break it off with the other guy and get him. As for breaking your current boyfriend's heart, don't you think you've already done that? What would he think if he knew this? A relationship is hard work, even if he is away you are supposed to stay loyal to him. I'm sure you'll get everything worked out. =] Good Luck!
<3 -- *Ashley*
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Ok relax, you said your boyfriend doesnt care anymore so why bother,break up with him. Besides if you dont your friend might think you love him too much to let him go and be with him. If you break up with your boyfriend trust me you'll be doing your friend,your boyfriend and yourself a favor. But you said you care for your boyfriend and you dont want to break his heart, but honey he doesnt care anymore so I dont think you wont and if you do you wont be the only one. If you really want to be with your friend than be with him theres a reason why you and him kissed and all of that. Take care
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First, I would break up with your boyfriend of two years, because you're doing both him and you a disfavor- him, because you don't really love him, and you, because staying with him may make your best friend feel like you love your boyfriend too much to be his.
Then confront him-but be gentle, because if it turns out he doesn't like you, I'm guessing you still want to be friends with the guy. But if you tell him what you did for him-dump your boyfriend-and how you feel, there's a damn good chance that he'll feel the same.
<3 katherine
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