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heyy umm me and my friend both liked this guy and he liked her when we first met him and stuff .. soo a couple of days ago he started to like me and she went away and just found out over the phone .. and now shes all upset about it .. and after she found out she called me and was like complaining to me about how upset she was .. but like i helped her and stuff .. but like when i use to like this guy they both went to a club and danced and stuff and he started to like her and he kissed her by the end of the night .. and she told me she sorta kissed him back .. and when i got madd she gave me like an attitude like oh my god its not my fault or w.e .. soo now like i dont know if should like be together w. this guy that we both like or not.. cause like i really really like him too soo i dont know if its okk help!
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hey im so sorry im answering the question now im probley like a month late :[ sorry ! but i would say how good of a friend is she . i think you should go for the guy but if the girl is your best friend than i would forget him becz its not worth ruining your relashinshop over someone you [ may ] not be with forever - i hoped i helped :]
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"but like when i use to like this guy they both went to a club"
So how long ago was that?? Does he still like you? You never stated anyone's age, but I'm going to assume it's 13/14, just due to the fact that this is the second time I've been asked this, and the first time included Teza's column info. Guys at 13/14 [at least from what I've experienced] never seem to have what it takes to keep a relationship going. If I were in this situation, I would forget about him and move on. He doesn't even seem like he's worth the time and tears. Think about it this way: how into you could he possibly be if he can so easily run to another girl for some gratification?? Relationships are not just one sided - they will never work that way. They require 110% effort and determination from BOTH partners in order to last. How much effort do you think he will be willing to put forth?? It's probably best if you simply ASK him what he feels. Let him know that little mind games don't work with you, and that you refuse to put up with any of his running back and forth crap. I think that's the first thing you should do. Personally, I wouldn't even bother with THAT much. It's definitely true that everyone is entitled to a mistake, but that's something I would not let slide. The way I view it, he shouldn't WANT anyone else, because no one else in the entire world should be able to even come close to COMPARING to you, and what the two of you have together, make sense? And not to offend you, but you're 13/14 [I assume, anyhow; sorrie if I'm wrong], and at that age.. relationships hardly EVER make it to marriage, Hun. You'd be damn lucky if they can hit the 6 month mark. I'm not telling you to turn people away simply because you don't feel you could someday marry them, because people change and mature as they grow older.. so for now it's nice to enjoy your childhood and gain experience and wisdom. Whatever the age, the respect and trust HAVE TO be there, you see? And if it doesn't work out.. well then it's sad, shore.. but it's not the end of the world. At 13/14, broken hearts heal just as quickly as they shatter... Goodluck to you though. Hopefully all goes well!
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I think you should forget about liking him at least for now. This guy is getting in the way of your friendship and its just pathetic. You both really really like him and it's dumb that you guys are acually fighting over him. But what did you mean you don't know if you should be together with this guy? Are you going out with him? Guys come and go but you always need your friends. Talk to her about this. Its just weird that you both are getting jelous over it.
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