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Another stupid relationship question
So, okay..to make a long story short. I'm 18, and recently was at a party, and had sex with this guy. For the first time, ever. We've been hanging out a lot lately, but it's only ever at a party. We don't always have sex. But, the last time we did, he stayed with me all night and cuddled. He tells me that he loves me. He says that he does because, he's lonely and I make him feel good, and that he has a lot to offer. He also says that it hurts when I don't say anything back. Which, I have huge issues with trust, and I'm not a complete moron. I'm a bit skeptical of it. He was in a relationship for two years, and it's been almost a year since they've broken up. The girl will fuck with his head and lead him on. He bitches about her a lot. So, I haven't really worked up the nerve to be like, "Hey..is this going anywhere, or do you still like her?" I know it's what I need to do. I was just wondering, if anyone else thinks that I'm just getting used, or if it seems like he does care for me, he's just afraid. He does say himself that he has trust issues, because she dumped him and started messing around with his friend. We sort of got in an argument last night, because I asked him, "Why don't you trust me?" And he just got up and left. WTF? I hate mind games. Someone help!!!
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It seems like you're getting used. Guys talk a lot about their ex but they will not talk about them non-stop. Hope I helped!
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well it seems likes hes just a lil afraid of commitment. i think you guys should take it slow and just give him time to figure out who he really likes. he will either realize hes still in love with his old GF or that he really likes you and is just nervous because of his last relationship.i cant really tell you what to do here except follow your heart and just give him some time.
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hmm..it seems to me that he's a little afraid to commit, which is understandable from his last relationship. you have to remind him that not every girl is like his ex gf, and that you do have trust problems too. juss let him know how you feel. i don't think he's using you, but you can never be sure with some guys. the best thing to do is to talk to him about it. he might juss need some healing time. i wouldn't ask him about his ex gf juss yet. wait a bit. if you guys seem to be getting closer, and he seems better, then ask him what he feels for you, compared to his ex gf. sometimes guys juss need time to think things out for themselves, if they think at all. don't think he totally doesn't trust you though. he probably does, but doesn't want to make the same mistake twice. as long as you guys gain trust with eachother, everything will be juss fine.
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sorry hunn, but i think your just a rebounder. I think he fell in love with the fact of falling in love which does happen alot of the time. And i also think hes not over that girl because he bitches about her alot, that also means that hes thinking about her and i mean idk about the trust issues because i need to know more but maybe he doesnt trust you because of his other relationship. But in the long run idk what you should do.. follow what you think you wanna do. Hope that helps..rate me if you wanna <3
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aww.. well first of all i think its a little of both. i think he does care for you. but you took things way too fast!! i mean you guys arnt even together.. this is like a friends with benefits kind of thing. if hes SO scared of being hurt then why is he rushing into having sex with you and rushing into sayin i love you. hmm sounds a lil shady to me.. and if u dont like mind games.. tell him STRAIGHT UP how you feel!! you know what you want in the relationship.. correct? so SPEAK UP! you two have to TALK and communicate. tell him exactly what you told me. and im sorry but your BOTH playin mind games on eachother!! because honestly WHAT DO YOU WANT!? if you dont even trust this guy why are you sleeping with him. you dont say i love you back.. so what do you want? do you want to keep it a friends with benefits kind of thing!? honestly you both need to just talk it out.. because if hes constantly talkin about his ex he obviously still cares for her..
i hope i helped! = )
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