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alright.. i've been like.. in love with this kid jimmy we went out for a while but we broke up and i havent gotten over him for like 3months and im still not over him it sucks i try and try like.. he hates being around me cause he feels like he has to be careful i mean seriously there was nothing wrong in our relationship we never fought always saw each other always talked and this was all on a daily basis, and i cutt and shit alot now because of him i mean seriously i know its bad.. and i have therapy and everything just i dont knoww i cant stop thinking about him and my friend amber ( she is my bestfriend and his too) well she thought something up and it like makes all sense she says that he is just scared that he is falling for me and that he is just scared because he never has fallen for someone like me and that im perfect for him becausei m everything he wants and im just like him and the perfect girl for him..and it makes me sad because i cantt stand knowing that im perfect for him and lets just say im sick of crying
sorry it's soo long =/
please help
thanks alot
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brooke
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Well since you haven't really said who broke up with who.. i get the feeling he broke up with you.. if he broke up with you.. then you aren't perfect for him. So lets see.. he says he hates being around you.. well that probably means he's over you.. and you say that there was nothing wrong in your relationship and you never fought and always saw each other and always talked.. but there could have been something wrong, such as... that he didn't feel the same way you did.. and that really sucks because i can see how much you like him.. well you will get over him eventually.. but the way i got over my ex was just going out on weekends with friends.. and we would have fun.. and i wouldn't think about him.. over time you will loose interest in him.. you'll realize that there will be another guy who you'll think about all the time and wanna be with.. and that guy will be better than jimmy because he would feel the same way you do.. i know the truth hurts.. but after three months he's most likely over you.. so you've gotta go out and have fun and eventually you'll be over him and a new guy will be in the picturee.
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Oh gosh. The "we're so right together it scares him-- literally" excuse. You may be a lot like him. Heck, for all I know you could be perfect for him. But I'm going to tell you what I really think.
If you were the perfect girl, he wouldn't have dumped you. He wouldn't have waited three months+ after he dumped you to try and get you back. Try more like three minutes.
Ready for this: Guys actually like it when they're dating the perfect girl for them. They like it so much, they usually don't dump the girl.
But why is he not hanging around with you? Don't worry, I can explain that. He's not hanging out with you because he's basically afraid of you. He probably knows/suspects that you like him, and it makes him feel awkward and guilty.
Has your friend actually heard him say that you're perfect for him? If not, then it doesn't count for anything. But I think if you were the perfect girl, he would treat you a little better, and I don't know, want to be with you? If he does think you're perfect for him and he's not with you, I kind of think that means "you're as close to perfect for me as I think can be" not "you're perfect for me." They're different. Remember that.
Stop cutting, and stop dwelling! It's bad for you, you'll find someone else-- so don't tell yourself you won't. Or maybe Jimmy really is perfect for you, I don't know. If he is, it'll work out, if not, then too bad. In my experience though, the guy I'm in love with doesn't motivate me to mutilate myself.
THIS IS AN ADDITTION:
Don't count the times he comes back to you. Please, don't. Count the times he broke your heart and dumped you...
I'll tell you why he keeps coming back. Because he's looking for someone who is more perfect for him (if that makes sense..) He's trying to find another girl. And when he doesn't, he goes back to you. The-closest-to-perfect-as-he-will-ever-get.
But just because you're the-closest-to-perfect-as-he-will-ever-get doesn't mean he deserves you. Well, more like you deserve him. Because guess what? You deserve better, even if you think you don't.
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aww im sry..seriously try to stop cutting and stuff it might scare him!...but i would talk to him one on one...just clue him in on how much you still care...ur friend could be wrong about this whole relatonship thing but theres always a chance of the two of you...much x3 dweebie
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