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I've been best friends with this girl...let's call her Molly... since fifth grade because we go to the same school, we're next-door neighbors, and we're of the same ethnicity. At the end of seventh grade, I moved away, and we hasd been in touch. We wrote at least 2 emails to each other everyday for a year. Now we're about to enter ninth grade and she doesn't write anymore. I wrote to ask her where she had been and why she wasn't answering my emails. A week later, I get a telegram-length response: i'm in (let's say Mexico). And I'm a really touchy person and I was mad that I wrote her all about the camp I attended and I really wanted to know what was going on in Molly's life, but I only get 3 words. So I wrote back: "how long are you going to be in Mexico?" and this time, after 2 weeks, I get the answer: "month". That's it, one word. I was so mad! Even when we were still in the same town, a lot of times Molly would be really cold and dismissive and give me super-short answers and diss everything I suggest we do. I was mad, so I talked to my parents. My dad said I should straightout tell her I'm hurt, and what she's doing is really b****y. My mom said that I should suggest she tell me more about what's going on with her and gently probe her. Then I argued with my parents about it and neither one of them were much help. I was wondering if a stranger could analyze the situation better.
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that sounds exactly like what happened to me when i moved away.
i think that you should tell her that she hurt you. i know that is what your parents said, but it helped my relationship with my friend when i told her that.
you could actually write her a letter. i know that is old fashioned but it is more personal and maybe she will get the message better.
and keep in mind that people change. some people hate it, but it is so true. when i moved, it was hard to talk to my best friend because we had changed so much.
she seems like she is changing in a way that she is more bitter or she is angry at something.
keep trying to talk to her and maybe if you see her, tell her in person what she did to you.
i hope that i helped, and i am here if you need to ask anything else.
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