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Husband's sexuality surprise
Ok to get the facts out of the way. I'm 23 married to a 42 year old man. The age difference doesn't bother us since I seem older and he acts younger. I recently came across an email from my husband to another man while looking for some pics he had lost off his hard drive. I had the bright idea that they might be in his sent messages folder if he'd sent them to someone. Since we're usually honest with each other, we have complete access to the other's email account. I often check his mail to weed out the junk so when he gets home from work he gets only the important stuff. He knows I do this and has said several times that he likes it like that and it saves him from doing it himself.
Anyway, I was right about finding the pics but the pics aren't all I found. The email state that he hadn't been with a man in about 6 years due to being in a committed relationship (before me) and he was looking forward to experiencing it again. Subsequent emails went on to set up a meeting which I assume happened. I'm was hurt and surprised since we've been together for a while and are married and he's never mentioned him being bi to me before. He's had plenty of oppportunities since I told him early in our relationship that I am bi myself and also that I had previously dated a guy that was bi. He's never brought it up and makes it appear that he's completely straight.
This has been bothering me for about 2 weeks now and I don't know how to bring it up without causing embarrassment and possibly an argument. He knows something is wrong because I've been quiet but I keep telling him I'm fine. I don't have a problem with him being bi since I am myself but I do wish he'd been honest with me before, especially since we agreed at the start of our relationship that we'd always be honest with each other. Any suggestions?
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Nothing is going to happen until you express your feelings. As I always say, communication is key to any relationship. The longer you wait to say something, the more upset you are going to get. If you are unsure what to say, start out by writing him a letter. You don't even have to show it to him, but doing so will help you straighten out your feelings.
You want your husband to be honest to you, then be honest with him. Stop hiding and tell him what is bothering you.
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