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16 yera old gurl living with lesbian mother and gurlfriend
i have been living with my mom and her spouse for over 13 years the spouse treats me like crap i know she hates me but why do i need to take her crap when my mom just won't do anything about it
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First off, I would recommend having a heart to heart with your mother. Let her know all of your feelings about anything and everything. Make sure you keep your cool, don't start arguing, yelling, etc. This will only bring tension to the conversation and she'll most likely get defensive.
Perhaps your mom doesn't "...do anything about it" because she feels like she is in the middle, or maybe she doesn't know what to do about it. Either way, she is your mother, and she needs to know everything that goes on. Let her know you don't want to complain, but that you want to have a resolution and that you want to get along as well as feel loved, accepted, and comfortable in your home.
Also, you may need to have a heart to heart with your mom's partner. Maybe after you speak with your mom, you can both sit down with her partner. Make sure she knows that you want to get along with her, and that you just want what's best for everyone. Emphasizing this will help them not turn on the 'defensive mode', which can make the conversations turn into arguments.
Make sure you do whatever you can to keep peace in the home. You are always in charge and responsible for your own actions no matter what anyone else is going. Never act in reaction to another person, but rather act on integrity. Even if things don't get better for a while, just make sure YOU are doing what's best and true and right.
Also, do not let the situation get you down. I know it can be hard to keep your joy and happiness when someone who shares a home with you is hurting and mistreating you throughout the day. Home should be a place of peace and comfort. Make sure you keep good, positive friendships in your life to help through tough times. If you're friends aren't so great, and they're hindering you too, you don't need them. It will only add to the stressful situation.
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