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My Love life problems
Well my friend Jake is in love with me, and I cant date anyone without him getting mad at me and I really wanna go out with this guy named Austin, but I cant I feel forced to go out with Jake cause if I dont everyone is going to get mad at me and he will hate me forever. Jake really loves me a lot all of my friends and his friends no it HELP! what do I do?
(I am a female and im 15)
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well you have to look at it like what do you want more to lose your friend jake or go out with the kid you really like.
hope i helped..good luck
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If you don't want to date Jake then don't be pressured by him or your friends to do so. Tell them all that you think of Jake as a brother and you certainly wouldn't date your brother. You are going to have to get serious about letting them all know, including Jake. If not, you will never feel comfortable dating anyone else for fear Jake will interfere. :)
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You need to tell Jake how you feel. If you already did and he doesn't except that, he's not a very good friend. Go out with Austin if you really like him! Forget what Jake feels... don't go out wiht him becasue then you would not really like him, so that would hurt. Confirming is the best way to excepting!
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You sound unhappy, pressured, and unable to do what you really want. Is this how you think a relationship should start?
The easiest thing for me to say is that you should do what you want. But HOW to do it is the question. Your friends should understand that if you don't like someone, you will be unhappy dating them. A real friend would not pressure you once you clearly explained how you were feeling.
There's nothing you can do about Jake's friends; of course they're going to be upset - they don't want Jake to be hurt. This is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to be true to yourself, while being considerate of Jake.
Let him know you care about him as a friend, but you do not want to date him. This might feel awkward or uncomfortable, but once you get rid of his hope you'll also be getting rid of a lot of the pressure people are putting on you.
Ultimately, you can only make choices that make you happy. Date who you want to date. Be friends with who you want to be friends with. It's your life, and if you don't stand up for you, who will?
Best of luck.
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