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hey! i have a problem thats been on my mind for a really long time. this year my bff L has changed alot. she got a boyfriend (and didnt plan on telling me that she got one...i found out 3 weeks later from J) and got really popular. She made friends with J. J was also my friend, so L would tell J stuff. One day J told me that L told her that she (L) stopped liking me and has just been pretending for like 8 months. L says that im immature and laugh at everything. We've never really had a big fight, im too scared for that. J says just snap on her. i dont want to because L nows a lot of people and could get tons of them to hate me, so im trying to avoid that.
So my question is: should i confront L,let it die down, or have a casual "we need to talk??" im really confused. Please help!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship? guitargrl01 answered Saturday June 18 2005, 8:01 pm: I say have a casual "we need to talk". but if you ask me, L isn't worth your time. she sounds awful. I'd tell her that if she's going to continue being this way, that you weren't interested in being her friend anymore. B/c no one deserves a friend like that. Don't snap on her, that'll only start things and people might turn against you. But don't be TOO casual, you have to let her know that you ARE mad and done let her walk all over you. Just say "i dont like the way you're treating me. no one deserves to be treated this way by their best friend and "best friends" dont pretend to like the other for 8 months. So if you're going to continue this, then forget our friendship. I dont like to throw it away but i can't let it go on like this" and leave it at that. I wouldn't let her say anything after that cuz she'll prolly give excuses or deny it. So just leave it at that. Hope i helped!
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