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Me and my friend
Okay I'm extremely confused. I'm a freshman in school and I have recently come to terms that I am gay and by the way I'm a guy. I have a friend who is a guy also and he comes over all the time. I am extremely attracted to him and I don't know what to do. I want to tell him how I feel but there is never the right time and I'm afraid if I do and he's not gay, he'll tell everybody about me. I have a pretty good feeling that he may be gay too but I'm never entirely sure. He has made comments before that if we were both women he would totally kiss me and he has made other moves on me as well but I think he may be waiting for me to make the first move. I feel that if I do, he may freak out. I've smoked with him a lot (not legal stuff lol) and all he does is say how he really likes me and he gets cuddley. How can I determine if he likes me and how can I start a relationship with him without completely ruining my life. Please respond immediately and keep in mind that I REALLY like this guy. Thanks!
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Awwh yay! I love gay people, they make me so happy =) Okay sorry, just had to get that out. If he has said to you that if you were both women, he would totally kiss you, odds are he is gay or bisexual. Most of the things you pointed out in your friendship drops HUGE hints to me that he is gay and <i>does</i> like you. The next time you spend a day/night/afternoon/weekend with him, and you are getting at all "cuddly" get his attention and ask him "Be honest [insert boys name here], do you have feelings for me? The way you've been acting around me is giving me hints that you may like me. I'm not going to be grossed out about it or anything if you do because ::cute little smile:: I sorta ::pause and look away:: feel the same way ::longer pause:: ::look at him::. I wouldn't tell him while you were both drunk because well, do either of you remember things when you're drunk or under the influence of anything? I mean, if you don't remember anything or if he doesn't remember anything, then only one of you is going to get pleasure out of the situation (the one who remembers anything) and then the next day, no one remembers anything! And then you sort of have to start from scratch with admitting your feelings to eachother. But, if anyone at all on this site makes fun of you or anything for being gay LET ME KNOW I'll find them and beat their asses. You are officially awesome just because of the fact that you are gay. And I ♥ you for that =)
-Emily
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Just wait, or tell him while he's drunk.
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Well honestly I dont think it would be to smart if yall were high when you told him. It sounds like he really likes you and i think if he were truly your friend or more he wouldnt tell people about you... unless you want them to know. I do think you should tell him. You just have to get up your courage and trust your instincts. Hope this helps.
CrzyLatinaChc
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It sounds to me that he is deffinetly gay and that he likes you. Just make sure that if you make a move on him it is when you are both alone and you AREN'T on drugs!! Haha he may do something he doesn't really want to if he is high. You can try making a few jokes about it too, saying like "If i was gay..." and see how he responds. Good luck!
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Marijuana and other things of the like can make people do some pretty bazarre things. If you are going to start this at any point in time - make sure you are both sober.
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THis is really tough. It could even back fire later on. Lets say you do tell him, and he's OK with it, and you start a relationship, and later break up and he turns mean and tells kids at school that your gay. And claims you made a pass at him. First find out what kind of person he is. How does he treat his other friends. Is he vindictive. DOes he bad mouth people or gossip about other kids at school.
I can't believe that kids at school even care who is gay today, although you may not want it to get back to your parents yet. I say let him make the first move.Sounds like he alread has. Next time he cuddles, say hey are you makeing a move on me? If he says yes, then well at least he went first. Before things get physical, then the two of you should have a conversation about what would happen if the word got out, how would you both handle it, and make an agreement to just be nice to each other, don't put any shit if the realtionship doesn't work out.
I don't know, maybe this sounds stupid, but it could help you to avoid a lot of heart ache.
Michele
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okay to me it sounds like he is gay and like talk to him say hey what if we were both gay would we go out and ask him like that and then it will happen or not i hope he is gay cuz i love happy gay people here so cute!!!
hope it all works out for ya!
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ok this is whats up if you have a feeling that hes gay then maybe you should approch him with that idea just find a good time to talk to him about it and if you dont know how to phrase it then like here are some ideas say hey i like you and you like me are you gay? i dont know something like that if he likes you like you like him maybe he'll tell you first and if you dont then its ok there are other gay fish in the sea (not to be mean) dont worry it will all fall into place (i'm always here)good luck
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