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Question Posted Friday June 10 2005, 2:14 am

Ok. First off, Im somewhat depressed..and no one beleives me on that. Just to say :) Anywho, Im what the labelers would call "Gothic", and I am , I know that. But i live in a conservative town, and Im the only person "gothic" within many many miles of here :) People all around me are talking shit, and Im fine with it.. I know how to deal. But , theyve created like an alter-ego for me. They decide who I am to everyone else, Im guessing. I cant say anything because my friends/family dont listen. No one really knows who I am and I want to be, ME damnit, heh. Im trying to let people know what Im like but the alter ego grows. I have really no where to run to, or anyone to have help me (yeah I sound desperate). I have NO idea what to do, and neither does the psychologist, she knows I cant really do anything in my case. Any ideas how I could be normal with out getting brutaliated by everyone, and how I can have people listen?

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FernGully answered Friday June 10 2005, 2:36 am:
I don't really want to bore you with any of the standard 'you can only be yourself/don't let other people define who you are' crap, because that doesn't really help you. Fact of the matter is, people are jerks, and that won't change any time soon. You shouldn't have to change yourself to suit other people or make them leave you alone, so my only advice is to keep being as 'you' as possible, and hope that people will get tired of trying to make you into something you're not. Most people worth your time will realize in due time that you are not what people claim you are or make you out to be. I guess what I'm saying is that you should continue being how you are, and if people can't accept that and need to make crap up, well then you'll have to just be content knowing how stupid they are in comparison to yourself. As for depression, sometimes it's nice to just talk to someone about the things that depress you, so you should find someone to confide in for that kind of thing, someone you can feel okay letting in on the stuff that bothers you and brings you down. It does wonders.

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