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omg this might sound really mean and all..but it's my grandma. she lives with us and i love her, she's so sweet and she's great! but she gets so annoying! i know it's because she's old and all but one time, my teeth were hurting because i just got my braces tightened so i didn't eat a lot of dinner and my grandma kept on insisting for me to eat one of the soft foods but i also kind of wasn't hungry so i said no and she kept on insisting and i kept on telling her in the nice way and i finally got so mad that i kind of said it meanly and ran upstairs. then there she goes, bringing the food to my room! she does this kind of stuff ALL THE TIME! what can i do!!!
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Wow, I know exactly what you mean. My sons have the same problem with their nonne (grandmother in Italian). YOu see when she grew up, they were very very poor. Her father was a drunk, and if her mother didn't go to his factory and get his paycheck every friday before he got it....he would have it all spent on liquor at the bars, before he even got home. Then the mom and EIGHT KIDS had very little food for the week. So once their grandmother grew up and got married and had her own children....well she overfed all of them. And she tries the same with her grandkids. (my kids) I have explained this to them, and it does help for them to understand. I'll bet your grandmother grew up during the depression when there was not a lot of food to go around for everyone. She can't imagine not eating, and she can't imagine not being hungry. You can, and well there are plenty of times when humans just aren't hungry, and having your braces tightened is one of them, I know, my son went through the same thing.
Well you have already tried being nice about it, and that hasn't worked. I know you love your grandmother very much. This might work for next time, when you next have your braces tightened, see if the orthodontist can give you a note to bring home that says "only cold fluids until pain subsides". If there is one thing that people your grandmother's age believe is doctors. They believe every word that doctors say!
Also, DO you feel comfortable sitting her down and talking to her about her childhood and how it was. Kind of bring up the subject of food and see what she says. Then you can remind her that things are not like that today, and that there is plenty of food around and if anything, there is too much and Don;t you watch the news grandma, there is an obesity problem in this country, and doctors and nutrionists are trying to make us pay more attention to what we put in our mouths, and the last time I was at the doctor for my physical, I explained to him my diet, and he said that was just fine.
She won't stop bothering you about food altogether, but she will let up a little.
YOu can also try saying, Look grandma, I don't mind at all, when you remind me to eat. But I do mind when you remind me more than once. I am a big girl and know what I need to eat, and I know when I am not hungry.
Of course, you can't tell her this during a meal, try it at a different time, when food is not on any ones mind.
I hope this helps sweetie. I know grandparents can be a pain. But my boys just lost their nonne in April, and they both wish she were around again, to bug them about eating. They miss her.
Good luck to you.
Michele
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