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I am going to be in 8th grade next year and I'm looking forward to it very much. Over the past year, my music choice has changed from pop to punk/emo and I wanted to change my look to go along more with my music choices. This year, I have felt more comfortable with this idea ,but I was just told that my friend Kaitlin is moving to California. Kaitlin is one of my best friends and shares the same style and musical choices as me. Now I don't feel as cofident with dressing like this. Please give me advice.
-Becca 13/f
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I've been through problems like this, so I'll speak from experience.
I've always heard from people that you shouldn't gain confidence from someone else.
It's sort of like if you become more confident because you got a boyfriend, and then when you guys broke up, you lost confidence. Except in this case, it's a friend, not a boyfriend.
What I'm saying is that you shouldn't gain self-esteem from someone else. Self-esteem comes from you. No one else can truly give you self-esteem.
My question is... Are you dressing like this to please your friends, or are you dressing like that because YOU want to? If you're dressing punk just because your friend is, then it's not you. In my opinion, not being yourself is like living a lie. But if you're truly dressing like this because YOU want to, then I think that you should keep being yourself.
I remember talking to my sister about this kind of thing, and she told me this:
"When you get older, people will appreciate you more if you act and dress like yourself, rather than if you follow the crowd and dress like everyone else."
So, just be yourself! If that style is you, then you should continue dressing like that. If it's not, then dress how you want to dress.
To gain confidence, just think "Well, I'm better than these people because I have the guts to be myself, and I won't follow the crowd because THEY want me to! I am my own person with my own life!"
If anyone ridicules you for your style, you need to realize that they have no life, and they're so insecure with themselves and they don't have the guts to be themselves. You're above them!
And you know your friends love you and are always there for you, right? ;o)
I hope I helped and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
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