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Sam
Hi, it's Lauren again I'm sorry to bother you but my mom won't be home for a few days and I really need some help. About an hour ago Sam showed up here. She was covered in blood and she could barely talk. I opened the door she said "I'm soo sorry for everything" and then she collapsed. I don't know what happened. I called my mom but I can't get in touch with her until tomorrow afternoon. Sam has a lot of bruises and she has track marks on her arms. I don't know what happened to her and she looks really sick and weak. I've been letting her sleep and I made sure that the blood isn't from her. She has a few cuts but majority of the blood is deffinately not from her. She's in really bad shape. I was thinking of calling the hospital but I don't know what happened and I don't want to get her into any trouble. She's had to deal with way to much in her life she doesn't need more stress right now. What do I do? How can I help her without getting her in trouble? And what do I do if she wakes up and I find out that she did something really horrible like she killed someone or something? Please help I really don't know what to do.
Thank you soo much
Lauren
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Ok, Lauren, you wanted to help Sam, so now you are going to help her. If she did kill someone they probably deserved it. THe less you know the better. (really) You can make sure that she survives this ordeal. If she is sleeping that is good. But please check her pulse. Be sure that it is strong. If it is fluttering or weak, she may just need medical attention. But perhaps she just needs rest and to build up her strenght. If her pulse is strong, she is OK. You need to get some fluids into her. Keep her hydrated. Lack of fluids can cause all kinds of problems that only the emergency medical techs will be able to help her with. So keep her hydrated. CHeck her pupils. Do the dilate when light hits them. (get smaller) Or do they just stay large. It they do, then she has drugs in her sytem now. She has to sleep them off. When she has slept this off, feed her. Something light. Chicken broth, toast, stuff like that. By the time your mom comes home, she should be well enough to travel. GO on the web and find the nearest Covenant house to your location and bring her there. They can help. You cannot help her deal with her addiction and what her family and these other people have done to her. You can't even help her to deal with what she had done to herself. And if you want to have good memories of her, it is best that she not wear out her welcome at your place. She won't be able to resist seeking out more trouble, because that is her life. As it is right now. Getting the authorities involved will only send her right back to foster homes and then right back on the street. Or , if you guys can afford it, and she can stay with you and your mom is willing to become her legal guardian. Then you should hire an attorney and get her into rehab. But you are looking at legal and rehab expenses upwards to $8,000 to $10,000 dollars. Actually if she is a "foster child" she is a ward of the state, and if you get her into a local drug rehab center. It will be obvious that she is coming down from something and they will admit her, and the will bill the state for her care, but they won't keep her long and she'll end up back in foster care. Use that option if you think her life is in danger.
She WILL find the help she needs at covenant house. And some day she will come back and thank you. When she is better and grown and is living as normal a life as possible, then she can write a book about it. I have a friend who is writing a book about the foster care system in this country. It won't be pretty. I am sure she would like to interview Sam. Maybe some day she can help someone else in the same trouble. Pay it Forward!
Good Luck to you all. You will need it.
I will say a prayer for both of you.
Michele
Lauren, if she takes off again. Just know that you have done your best. Your a good girl and a good person. Go to college so you can make changes to the system when you are older. BEcome a lawyer and work for foster children. Protect them. Change the system, change the laws. No matter what happens. Sam is not responsbile for what has happened to her. Once she has been exposed to a normal life at the Covenant House, and has choices to make. If she makes the wrong ones, then it will be her fault.I hope it does not come to that. She has lived a whole life of pain in a few short years. It is very sad.
Michele
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