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you probly think im being silly but im not its the truth and it really hurts, im just gonna come out and say it, my mum doesnt love me and im being serious she says she hates me but perhaps she doesnt she might like me but there is no mother love there she talks to my sisters mates more then she talks to me and when she does talk to me she just nags at me and yells i dont have any bond with her and it hurts me when i think about it i know she loves my sister cause she shows her love she buys her everything but that aint even the problem i mean i dont mind if she would rather spend her money on my sister its just that she never hugs me or helps me threw things when im upset when im ill i cry in my room on my own i wish it wasnt true i sometimes block it out and just say to myself that im being silly and its not true, but then some small little thing will triger it off again like it i see my mum hugging my sister or something like that my mum never takes me anywhere and she wil never talk to me about anything i feel alone even when im with a load of people i just feel alone inside all i want is my mum to show me some love sometimes to hugg me some days to hold my hand when im ill and to show me she is really my mum and not some stranger i no this sounds stupid and dont laff but sometimes i cry in my bed and put my arms around me and pretend it my mum telling me everything is alright :( i think its time i faced up to the truth
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Wow i have tears in my eyes right know. Well i can't say that i have gone through the same exact thing but i have gone through something similar. I thought that my mom didn't love me at some point in my life. Until she showed me that she loved me. I want you to know that no matter what your mum does or says she loves you so much. My mother used to say that their is no grater love than the love from a mother to her children and i do belive that know. Honey just remember that if you feel that there is no one there watching over you pray and always remember that God is watching from above and he loves you more than you can imagine. You probably need the love that a mother should give to her child and you need her to wrap her arms around you and to give you advice when you are down i understand that and you should tell her how you feel you should tell her that you love her and tell her how much you need her. Honey i have so much respect for you because no matter what your mother has done you can still call her your mother and you have so much love for her know just remember that God is watching from above and he is there to put his arms around you when you are down.
Love Melissa
ps hey if you need to talk email me at Soccer_chica2010@yahoo.com and heres some more advice if you need someone to talk to but you feel like there is no one their than write down your feelings and hide it somewhere no 1 can find it!!! I hope that i helped in some way!!
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Who knows what your mom is thinking dear one...but you are a precious precious little soul. I have not been where you are, I cannot say that I understand how you feel. You are such a big person even now because even though you know how she feels, you still regard her as your mother and you love her. It's almost like the roles are reversed in your situation. We can't change who people are unfortunately, but we can change what and who we become. The only thing that I could suggest to you would be for you to lead by example and "show" your mom that you love her whether or not she loves you. Find someone though who can give you that nurturing of a mother figure, you will need that..even if it's a teacher or mentor.
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Hello Honey,
It sounds like you are really upset, and I don't blame you. A mother is a very important person in a young persons life, and you are right she should be showing you some love and affection and helping you with problems that you may have, and you should be able to talk to her about anything. I am so sorry that you don't have that. It is not fair. There is something wrong with your mother. I can't say why she is neglectful of you. I know that I couldn't do that to my kids. I have two boys. And I know sometimes one might think that I love the other more, but really it's because one is four years older, and he has more privildges and freedom, well he's in college, and I hardly ever see him any way. But inside they know that I love them both. Many of us have grown up knowing that our moms were not the loving perons you see in the KOdaK commercials on TV. That's what used to get to me when I was young. Those Kodak commercials made me cry because they were nothing like what my family was. It was hard and I spent to many years being wounded because my mother didn't love me. I had a whole in me that I could never fill. Then I had some therapy but not until I was in my 30's. I learned that my mother was the one with the problems, and I was going to have to be the "parent" to the little child in me who never had a loving mother. It was hard, but I did it, and I have a normal life now. And I have two boys and I love them to death, and we all love each other very much. I didn't want to be a mom like the one I had. That may be the best you can hope for, but it can be a wonderful thing. There is a book that I read. It was given to me in therapy. I will never forget it. It started me on the road to healing. It was called Toxic Parents. It is an old book, if you can find a copy it won't be expensive. You will find that the book will explain that it is not your fault if your parents (mother) does not have the emotional strenght to raise you with love. She is the one with the problem. You don't have one yet, in fact you are smart enough to know that there is something wrong, and you can't help but blame yourself, because every message we get from TV, magazines, and the world around us, is that our mother must love us and if she doesn't then there must be something wrong with us. Right? WRONG. It is not you it is your mother. The answer is, I guess, is to not look for an answer, look for strenth to be the mother to your inner child. I hope this helps honey. You deserve better. If you grow up and stay strong and have confidence in your own worth and value yourself, you will find someone one day who will cherish you.
Michele
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oh my god! Thats so sad! i have a tears in my eyes!!! I think your mom loves you. I think just cuz she wanted a girl kid and she gets along with your sister more because shes a girl too. but dont think your mother doesnt love you. there is no mother in the world who doesnt love all their kids. sometimes i feel the same way for a long time until my mom surprises me with some way of showing love. she loves you no matter what.
hope i helped
i'd be happy to answer anymore of your questions. im here to talk to. i'll always understand.
xoxo Julie
p.s.God loves you.
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