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Hey i really need help I feel very very lonely and i always feel like crying and so empty inside i dont know what to do :( i have a boyfriend and i have a great family i just dont know why i feel this way i dont know what to do even right now i feel like crying its so hard im so lost i really dont know what to do please help
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It sounds like your depressed.
Depression isn't the result of things going badly in your life; it's the chemicals in your brain doing wacky things. This can be made worse by environmental factors. In my experience, low self esteem frequently makes what would otherwise be a minor chemical imbalance a serious problem.
Being a teenager is very hard on one's self esteem. The necessities of life are still being handed out, and in return there is an expectation to live up to other people's expectations. Society somehow expects teens to figure out their personal goals and desires while trying to fit into other peoples molds. It's inherently a stressful situation. Frequently, teens are given few ways to really make a difference in the world - even though they frequently have the skills and the energy to do so.
Yes, your personal situation might be great compared to most others, but your still not in an easy spot. Being a teenager is not easy in todays society. It's not inherent in the age, it's part of our society. So don't beat yourself up for feeling like things are screwed up even though you seem to have a perfect life from the outside. Our society is screwed up and teenagers take a nice chunk of that.
OK, now that we've taking care of the ranting, I can get onto the useful advice. :)
If you've got the time, find something you can volunteer to do. If you go to a church, they tend to be great at this. Habitat for Humanity is one of my favorite "get out there and do good" recommendations. While technically a christian organization, I've never had such things come up. If nothing else, get a few friends together and pick up trash in a local park or along your street (depending on where you live). You will see that you can have a positive impact on the world around you, and very little feels better than that.
If you are overwhelmed by emotion, the arts are great outlets for that. Poetry, painting, and acting seem to be the most popular forms of venting, but any art form you can use to transfer the extra emotion out of yourself will work. If physical activity is more your thing, find something you can numb yourself with. Running and formal martial arts are popular. Other options include exercises that require counting. Not only does the counting give you something to focus on, but you can keep track of your progress and feel good as you build up strength.
If nothing seems to help, and/or you get to the point where you start to seriously think about hurting yourself (or others), you should talk to a professional. You can start with the school nurse or guidance counselor, or see if you can get an appointment with a psychologist through your doctor. It may be that your chemical imbalance is large enough to make medicines a valid option. Personally, I prefer to try other things before medicine, but I do that when I have a headache too.
I hope some of these ideas are helpful. Good luck, and please ask if you have trouble finding the resources you need.
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if you always feel this way then you really should talk to your parents about going to see a doctor. they can put you on anti-depressant pills and they really help. in the past i took them and they help out alot, really.. its not corney or bad to take them so dont be afraid. also, sometimes when your sad take a peice of paper and jot down all the things in life that make you happy. write down memories you have made with friends and things that make you smile. maybe stress is getting to you... try to take at least one hour out of the entire week to just pamper yourself. buy a pampering kit at your local store and make your nails and toe nails beautiful :) take time for yourself. :)
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I am so sorry to hear you are sad. I dont know what reasons you might have for feeling the way you do, but based on what you wrote this sounds like clinical depression to me. If that is the case, you should really talk to a professional. Depression can be a very dangerous thing if left unchecked, while at the same time it is not so hard to cure (as far as i heard anyway). I also dont know how old you are. If you are a teen it is not uncommon to feel this way, and so it might just be a phase you are going through. Nevertheless, talk to someone close to you, someone who knows you well, and discuss the possibility of getting outside help. Im sorry if this wasnt a lot of help, but there is little i can say to make you feel better. All the best to you.
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