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Hey, heres my problem. My one friend always gets all this stuff like... perfumes for example ( she has Victoria Secret, Hollister, A&F, and Ralph Lauren and a bunch of others..).. which she nevers wears..they just sit there...so you figure, i can get them right? Well wrong. " I don't wanna smell the same as you! " and i told her how other people own that too, and she went," i haven't smelled it on them!" And this is happening with a bunch of other stuff to... i want a certain color uhm..tube dressy thing, i can't get it cause SHES getting that color she told me to get a black one.. FOR SUMMER! and then with sunglasses...and like EVERYTHING...even hair! Im a blonde, shes a brunette. I asked her once how i should wear my hair and she went," Curly, because i'm wearing mine straight and i don't want to have the same hair as you." And i counted all of the same things she bought as ME and we have like six of the same things! I went shopping for a ring and i showed it to her, and a minute later she pulls my ring off the shelf and goes," Im gonna get this one! " and i went,"...uh..thats the one i was looking at." and she went," oh. But i saw it first." and i was like,".. i was here like three minutes before you..." ... but ANYWAYS..also, even though she DOESNT want us to look alike.. she ends up getting the same thing as me.. so whenever i go over her house i gotta mark like all my stuff like my straightner so i know its mine...and ugh... this just always happens.. and i don't really think she's trying to copy me..and it really gets to me sometimes because theres so much stuff i want but i have to get it either in a different color, or not get it at all. i dont know.. i have no idea... but PLEASE HELP..!! =/
p.s. i hope this letter didn't sound to snooty like " oh i want this and this! " like some stuck-up girl...lol...
signed,
Almost Identical
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don't worry you don't sound snooty at all. your friend sounds really annoying actually, doing this to you *even if she isn't doing this on purpose*. i think she really likes your style and taste in things, but she always tries to force you to get a different color or not at all to make it seem that she doesn't. tell her what you told me, how she's always "copying" you but like she forces you to get something different. something's up with that and seriously, if you don't talk to her and this continues, you might not be able to take it anymore and EXPLODE. but first experiment. go shop with her and pick out this totally HIDEOUS outfit and cry "oh this is so CUTE!!!" and see what she does. if she doesn't buy it then it's probably because it's so hideous lol. if she does, she's definitely copying it (unless the hideous outfit isn't actually that bad...but choose an ugly one). and then if she does buy it, she'll force you not to buy it so you wouldn't have to buy that outfit!! lol just TRY it out and the results may not necessarily mean anything but whatever.
also next time when you buy, let's say a straightener *even if you already have one* and find one you like, you could suggest another brand or kind to your friend, but if she doesn't go for it and wants to get the one you're getting, then yeah she's definitely COPYING. but it could work, who knows she might get that other straightener. anyways good luck with her!! :)
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