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Should I stay or should I go?
First, I'm an 18 year old girl. My ex-boyfriend is also 18.
While we were together and even before then, we got along famously until something stupid would happen and we'd end up arguing. We'd make up and realize how dumb it was only to end up arguing again the next night.
What's weird is though, even when we were arguing, I loved being with him. I'm only 18 and I already feel like I've found my other half in him.
Now that we're not a couple anymore, we talk as friends and constantly admit to wanting to date again. We just always end up telling each other that "it's for the best."
My question is are we being ridiculous? Is petty arguing (even if it is constant) a good reason to end a relationship? If anyone's ever been in a similar situation, please let me know what you did.
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This sounds just like my brother's relationship he had.They broke up ,but then got with each other again because they reallyy loved each other , and of course yall arent being ridiculous,every couple fights now and then !I suggest yall being only really good best friends because if yall date again and then break up then that might be the end of everything ! hope i helped, ♥ Vic
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sometimes when couples like you guys argue a lot, it means that you guys make a good couple, lol. yea i know it sounds kinda weird but its because the fact that you guys are too perfect for each other. its like since you guys are perfect, something bad has to happen like arguing. but if you really like him, you should go back going out with him. and if you guys start arguing again, dont think of breaking up. well...it depends on what you guys are arguing about
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I think every relationship has alot of arguing.If you dont argue its not a good relationship because someones not expressing themselves the way they want to.No one agrees all the time.But IF you still love him then tell him.Tell him that you still want to be with him.Tell him everything If he still insist on not wanting to be with you then just move on.It will be hard and take some time but you WILL find someone else. Hope I helped.smooches :)
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Well you have to learn not to sweat the small stuff. You both have to learn to let those things go. I think it gets easier when you are older. When you are young you expect EVERYTHING to be perfect. Because all the messages you get from TV shows and magazines is that everyone is always beautiful, no one has bad habits, and all problems are solved in a half hour, and everyone lives happily ever after. But those people on TV and in magazines have people standing off stage, and off camera to fix their hair, touch up their makeup and write their lines. Everyone is always reasonable. Because they are all there for one reason.....they are getting paid.
You and your boyfriend are together because you want to be. That is worth more than all those petty disagreements. For example, let's say that your boyfriend sometimes acts boyish and silly especially with his friends. And this is common in 18 years old boys. They have one foot in adult hood and one foot still in boyhood. When he acts silly, you may get annoyed and feel embarrased, and then you argue about it. Well you can choose not to get embarrased by his silly behavior. He is not a reflection of you. He can choose his own behavior. If you make a issue and point it out and argue about it then most observers will rememeber your making an issue of it, rather than rememeber his bad behavior, which most people expect from a young man his age. There are a couple of sayings that I like and use them often. One is'
"only the end of the worl is the end of the world" And another is: IS this the hill you want to die on" which fits when a person takes on an issue and won't let it go.
When I read some of the questions from kids on this website, it is really sad. So many of them are far from being happy. If you and your boyfriend are happy for the most part, if the REAL IMPORTANT things are OK, like mutual respect, and shared values, like no cheating, and being helpful and supportive of each other. Then the petty fights over silly things should be easy to stop, and well worth it. Yes I think you should be together and then take a step closer to maturity and learn to let go of the things that don't matter. After all, do you think married couples never fart, or get something caught in their teeth? Of course they do, and you know what, it brings them closer, because we are all human. There I go again, talking (writing) too much!
Michele
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