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Hi you answered a question that I asked about what I should do about all my "family" problems. I didn't tell you my age last time so I'm 13. Well since I last wrote you I was moved again to another foster "family" well this time nothings different. These people just want the money. The woman is always high and the man is constantly trying to rape me and he beats me when I fight back. I've only been here less than a day and it's already started again. Well I'm not dealing with it this time. I tried looking up that place that you recommended and I'm kind of scared about it. I guess I'm scared of everything now. I met some people here who can hook me up with some stuff. I'm scared to go with them but I'd rather be hight with them then here with these assholes. I think I'm just going to run and keep running until I never hear from people again. I hate people. I think that you are the only good person I've ever talked to. I was hoping that you would be. I just wanted to thank you for that. I really feel comfortable telling you this stuff even though you're a stanger. I don't know why but you just seem really nice. I just want to thank you for trying to help me and for being as nice as I thought you would be. I think I'm just destined to be like my parents. I've seen other 14 year olds and it seems like I'm so much older than them. I don't understand why I feel like that but I just do. I'm going to try to figure out how to get some money and get to my friend's house. No matter what I have to do I'll get there. Her parents are good people and I know that she won't be doing drugs. Thank you again for trying to help me.
Sam
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Dear Sam,
I do hope that you make it to your friends house, and don't say that you will end up like your parents, it does not have to be that way, but it will be hard work. You already know better, and you are strong already, because after everything you have been through, you are still alive, and you said some nice things about me and you didn't have to. I ran away when I was 15, and again at 16, and again at 17, and then at 18 left for good. I was molested by other people, adults, and my parents didn't care. It took a long time. I drank to much and was to easy. I was just looking for someone any one to be nice. And what happened was I just made it easy to be used.
Please don't forget about the covenant house. Go to their web site, you will see stories of kids that they took in and they helped them. They became their families. they helped the kids finish school and stay off drugs. I don't think anyone has to return home if they are abused.
ONe thing, if your friend's mom is nice enough to take you in. You have to be good, and you have to be greatful to her and please please follow the rules of her home. You have been on your own for a long time, and with no one to care about you, you have had a lot of freedom. Your friend's mom will want to take you in to help you, but if she comes to believe that you may be a threat, she will ask you to leave. She won't understand if you have urges to take drugs, she will just think "just say no". And I know it will be hard for you. The covenant house knows who to deal with that. You won't be on your own you will have help every step of the way. And grow up to be happy and self -reliant. I am now. I own my own home, I have a career, and I got an education on my own. I raised to boys, mostly by myself, and they are good kids. 15 and 19, and they drink or take drugs or smoke cigaretts, and yes they are cool. My oldest goes to college and runs the radio station there, he has a rock show. My boys like heavy metal. I just drove my youngest and his friends to a Mudvayne concert. That is how good parents behave. I am so sorry for you. Please don't become like you parents. YOu are a sweet girl and deserve a good life. You'll just have to get it on your own, and you will have to work hard.
It will all be worth it. Thank you for writing and letting me know how you are doing. You can write again if you like.
Michele
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