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getting a boyfriend
how do you get a boyfriend when your not all that attractive?
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Well, first I want you to get out the newspaper and look at the marriage announcements page. If you live in a big city, those pages should be chock full of pictures of happy couples getting married, and a lot of them are not what kids would consider attractive. Some of them are fat. Or look at couples that are married. Look at couples that are together and happy. Don't look at young kids, to them everyone has to look like britney spears and justin timberlake (I hope they are still popular!) I'm just trying to make a point here. So how did those couples get together?
Well what I know to be true is this. Men are attracted to "confidence" Most kids your age are a little unsure of themselves,but they hide it. But if you have confidence, and you know your value, and you are comfortable in all situations, other kids, will be attracted to you. Sometimes confidence comes with age. The older you get, the smarter you get, and as you become successful in your job, or college, and impress people with your brains, they will be attracted to you. Yes some girls are nothing but beautiful, like Jessica Simpson on TV. But she is dumb, and while she did find one guy who thinks that's cute! and he married her. most men get tired of cute real fast, and this girls beauty cannot hold them.
I know this sounds stupid, but you are not going to be young forever. Teenage years is a very small part of your life. You will live 70 or more years as an adult. That is the time when you need to find a life partner. Some one who looks beyond beauty and wants substance. Men want brains, wittiness, and confidence in their women, and women who are capable of handling themselves in any situation. The best thing you can do right know is get an education. Find something you love to do, and can learn about and have a career in. You will meet men on the same career path, and have something in common with them and then fall in love. I am always amazed when I see married couples who are both anthropologist, and go exploring pyramids together, or vulcanologist, and they explore volcano's together, or photographers and they go on safari's to africa together. That is what makes life great! And most likely those couples did not meet in high school. They met later in life. And have a good solid marriage. That is what you should be working towards so that you don't have a lot of lousy marriages that end in divorce or worse, because you just "had to have a boyfriend" and took the first guy that came along. I hope this makes sense to you, because it does work. So pay attention to your education, find something you lovd to do, something you are passionate about, and the rest will fall in place, all at the righ time.
Michele
PS, I guarantee, confidence will bring you more boyfriends that you'll know what to do with.
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