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Music and Mothers
My mom grew up in a family of singers, and currently I am also learning how to sing. This isn't the fun, free western pop music, but rigid Eastern music with a lot of rules and tone and pitch regulations. My mother is so attached to this Eastern music that if she's blaring this music in the car and I'm trying to do homework, if I ask her to turn it down she completely blows up at me. I don't really like this kind of music, but my mother has already told me that I cannot quit. The part I really don't like is when my mother starts to help me practice at my house with all the drills and stuff we do in class. She gets ticked off because I "sing the music mechanically- you need to put more life into it." I am in chorus at school and I simply adore it, but my mother won't let me switch to Western music. Is there any way I can get her to see my light or to help me cope with hearing this music everywhere I go?
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Your mother is trying to hold on to and make you a part of your heritage. She has pride in her culture and wants you to share that. Yes you prefer Western music, but you must realize that though you don't like it, Eastern music is as much a part of you as it is your mother. You should find pride as she does. You don't have to like something to learn an appreciation for it. I challenge you to take an interest in your Easter singing lessons for a month. Ask your mother questions about the song origins and style. Find out all you can about the instruments and the way the music is taught to the players. It is all a part of you. Know that you don't have to stop loving Western music to please your mother, you just have to make an effort to at least understand why Eastern music is so important to her. You may never learn to like it, but it's not going to go away. It seems like such an important thing to you mother, that I'm afraid it could damage your relationship with her if you don't at least try. Yes talk to her about it, but take up my challenge too. Luck and Love! I pray you find a middle ground.
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Tell your mom that you just aren't into that type of music. Tell her that you appreciate that she is trying to help you but that if you want help you will ask. Good luck.
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Well...did you ever tell your mom that you don't like Eastern music? That might help your situation a little bit...but maybe just sit down and talk with her and tell her that Western is the way you want to go and taht you know you will succeed in it
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