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well, ill make it short but i need the help i have a boyfriend that i care for so much and i like him more than anything but the thing is Im kinda preppy and hes a skater and people at school had a problem with it. We have been going out for 4 months now and everyday more darma comes but he has been changing and its not the boy i liked 4 months ago and hes just changed im best friends with my x-boyfriend and i tell him everything and he always freaks out if i talk to him or any boy and he doesnt seem like he cares for me as much as he did and he is just changing soo much and i went away for a week and i came back and he told me he liked my friend and it just always bothers me now but im going away soon for all summer and i dont no what to do if i was gone just for a week what will happen during the summer !! PLEASE HELP ME FAST !!!
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I think you two need to end the relationship before you go away for the summer. This isn't going well at all, hes developing feelings for your friend and is changing himself quickly. So, I think a lot will happen when you leave for the summer while dating him. This isn't a strong enough relationship enough to last a summer without falling in love with another person or changing, its way too weak, I can tell its weak because when theres a problem with a boyfriend, you always talk to them about it, you and your boyfriend do not have that bond. I think you should also try to be understanding of a boyfriend when he gets jealous of you talking to an ex-boyfriend, a guy you use to have feelings for. So, you will not ever be able to convince him you are just friends and you can be trusted until you are dating for about a year, thats when the trust comes in for love, most likely a year is when you start trusting or good, no worries at all. But, this isn't working out anyway, so you just need to break up with him and move on, hes starting to move on by changing himself.
-TheTeenGirl
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First of all, please use periods! I only spot like one period in that entire paragraph. Just a tip from me in case you wanna ask for advice next time; more people will help you if you have good spelling, grammar, punctuation and all that good stuff. Plus, mods have the power to delete your question if they don't like it.
Second of all...Preppy...skater...none of that should matter. So if you and your boyfriend ever work it out, just ignore all of the drama because love should win over stereotyping.
Ok. About him freaking out when you talk to your ex-boyfriend or any other guy...just keep in mind he's probably lacking confidence. If he worries, it's probably only because he cares about you and is afraid of losing you. I'm sure you'd probably feel a little uncomfortable (if not a lot) if he talked to his ex-girlfriend and a bunch of chicks. So if you don't like that he worries, just tell him not to worry and lay off a bit, but give him some slack if he doesn't lay off completely.
People DO change. Happens all the time. If he is not the guy you went out with before, maybe it's just time to move on. Dating is about gaining experience. You bond with someone. And out of it you find out what you need and want. If something doesn't work out you move on.
If you are worried about leaving him for the summer, maybe that's a sign you two shouldn't be together anymore. I say that because a relationship definitely needs trust and you shouldn't need to worry. If you find yourself worrying, that means your relationship isn't as tight as you had hoped.
So my advice to you would be to either 1) Ask him for a break from each other during the summer or 2) break up with him completely. #1 means you guys are free to date others while you're on a "break" and once the break is over see how you really feel and decide what's best. #2 means you have completely decided that he is not the boy for you and it would just be better if you broke up.
It's all totally up to you on what you do in the end, but I hope my advice helped in guiding you on what to do.
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