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my girlfriend is sixteen...and since i last wrote you she was put in the hospital she has 3 broken ribs...she says it's because she fell down the stairs but i don't think that's true i can see it in her eyes i'm really scared for her if i was to hurt her father because of what he did to her would that be illegal even though he does these things to her? i hate seeing her like this i don't want her to have to deal with him please help me i don't know what to do
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If you started the fight, the father would call the police and there is too great a chance that they would believe him, and not you. In addition to being violent, he is very manipulative, and he will have the upper hand soon.
Of course if you get him to throw the first punch, and you call the police and don't hit back, let him hit you...then you are obviously the injured party, and they would arrest him, but it has too much of a chance of going the other way. He may be too smart to fall for that. I you could convice her that she has a safe place to go, perhaps your house, maybe she will be willing to tell the truth. If she tells the doctors at the hospital, they have to by law, report her father. But then she has to stand her ground and not be intimidated when the police show up. She has to know that you will be there for her. She is totally controlled by this man. It needs to stop, but you have to convice someone in authority that this is happening. Is there anyone at school or something, who knows you to be a good kid and trustworthy, who will believe your story, and your suspicions, and go to the authorities with you, and say that you would not lie about an issue like this, and explain that she is to afraid to come foreward. It if very hard for authorities to believe that a child wo is 16 years old would not act on her own behalf and tell the authorities about what her dad is doing to her. It sounds like a very sick relationship between her and her dad and you may find out in the end that you are not able to help her. I am very sorry for your troubles, I hope this helps. It is good of you to want to help, but in the end if you cannot, please don't blame yourself.
You will know when that time comes, when you have done everything you could to get her into a position to tell the truth, and be free, and she still chooses not too. But that does not mean that it is the end for her, it is just not her time to break free. Sometimes we have to find our own way, no matter how hard it is.
Good luck to you,
Please let me know how you make out
Michele
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