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I feel like sometimes i cant stand being around this person at school, becasue its like she doesnt like to be around me. I even joined a sport that i really dont like just so i can be with her more. Yet it seems worse now that i have joined the sport because she still doesnt want to be around me. The problem i am really having is that i cant stand to go a day without seeing her and it seems like she could care less if she saw me or not. But lately i think she has been trying to fix this, but i have always wanted to know why she seems to be embarassed about our reltionship and cares to much of what others think instead of caring about how she feels. Any help with these questions would be grateful.
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Are you two going out? It seems that way by how you are wording this question, so I will just assume that you are. I don't know her (or you) so this answer is just to help, but I can't tell you how she really feels, because I don't know: Does she have the same friends as you? Maybe she would rather see you on the weekends and her friends at school, because she has many groups of people she likes to talk to, and doesn't want to leave anyone out. Do you know why she doesn't want to be around you in the sport? Maybe she has a friend (or friends) that she never gets to see and she wants to be with her. Or maybe she doesn't mind talking to you at the sport, but she doesn't want you to hold her or anything because her parents or other adults are watching and it seems awkward. I, personally, know that it can sometimes be weird when adults are around and watching. You say she is embarrased. If you two are going out, as I think you may be, then I doubt this is the case. It might even be the opposite, where she doesn't want to "show you off" in front of everyone. Maybe she feels too much like those people who make out by their lockers in front of everyone. Maybe there are adults/teachers at school, too, and this still feels weird. If this is the case, then she can't help feeling that way and you have to deal with and respect that. She probably cares a little about what others think- How many girls don't?- but I'm sure she still cares about how she feels. If she feels uncomfortable holding hands or being held in public, then she can't just change this, and you don't want to push her and make her feel odd. As for not caring if she sees you or not, maybe she is just bad at showing emotion or feelings. Have you ever considered that you might do the same thing? If you are in one of her classes or walk into one of them, do you say "Hey" or do you just ignore her? It might be weird either way if the people she is around are commenting on your entrance and saying, "Ohh! Look who it is!" Maybe you do the same thing to her without realizing this. I wouldn't be sticking up for her so much, but you said she seems like she is trying to fix it a little, so that's all that matters. I think you should give it time and see how things go, and if you have problems then talk to her about it. Hopefully she will talk to you if she has problems herself. Good luck with everything. Hope I helped!
~Meags
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