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I've been friends with my current best friend for over 4 years. Lately [this whole year] I dread to talk to her, interact with her, ect. Everything about her has begun to bother me. Still though , she is a really good friend , with a lot of qualities that I like in a person. I don't want to name call, but she's is a GI-NORMOUS know-it-all. I feel like I'm in her shadow all the time , she is really smart and I'm . . . yeah , not stupid but I still feel like I am when I'm around her. What do you think I should do? I really hate thinking this stuff about her and having thoughts of sometimes using violence. I don't want to just explode in her face some day. Any advice? Thank you. Oh, Bee tee wee (by the way) I heart your website. :)
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I think you should take some time to figure out if these feelings are about your best friend, or about yourself.
For example, if you're feeling insecure about anything, this situation can make you feel even worse. Of course, if you feel absolutely fine about yourself, then this is a whole different matter.
Your choices?
Suck it up and try to deal with the situation. I don't know how realistic that is, since you're obviously very bothered. Thoughts of violence might creep into your mind, but acting on those thoughts is never a good idea.
Does your friend do specific things that bother you? For example, does she make fun of you, make snide comments, or always shove her opinions in other people's faces? Those are things you can confront her about - and I don't mean by screaming or yelling. Sit her down and have an honest conversation with her.
While this might seem scary, it's the only real alternative to losing your friend. If you still want to be her friend, then this is the way to move the friendship forward.
Of course, you might be ready to let the friendship go. Friends are not always there for a lifetime, and that's okay. Think about whether you really want to keep the friendship alive, and if you DO, then talk to her.
Best of luck.
And thanks for hearting my website! I heart you for saying so.
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