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what should i do
hey... my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 months. we really care about each other, but hes had sex before and im still a virgin, and would like to keep it that way, until i become more comfortable with my body and my boyfriend. i can start to tell already that hes done more things then have, and it scares me alot. i have high morals, and im not into any of the oral sex(receiving it or giving it) or anything like that. i dont want my boyfriend to get pissed at me if i dont pleasure him in that way, or him get mad because i dont want it done to me. im only 16, and that seems worng to me and i would get totally embarassed if i did it. what advice can you give me.. thanks kendall
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The only thing you can do is have on open honest discussion with him about your mutual likes and dislikes. A man that doesn't respect you wishes in sex won't respect them in other things either. It sounds to me as if you are not ready for much sexual experimentation. Kissing and a little petting, but nothing else right? If he's the right one it won't matter that he has more experience, he'll respect how you feel. Sex is too big a step to take until you're ready. If he can't accept that, then he isn't ready to be a responcible man yet. If he trys to talk you into stuff, that's normal "horney, I want you, surely she can't really not want this" guy denial reaction. Don't freak out over that immediately. If he doesn't back down once you can tell he understands you mean what you're saying, leave him. Plus there are things that you can do to pleasure each other without mouth genital contact or intercourse that can be pretty satisfying. If he doesn't have enough experience to know get some books and figure it out together. Important note, wash hands before and after. Luck and love!
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