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why was my husband in my dream?
My father passed away on Feb 26...I had a dramsbout him afew days back and in my dream my husband was in it he camt to visit me and stayed.We have been married 18 yrs and have been separated for 3 yrs..I wanna know why he was in my dream when it was bout my father
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My uncle passed away a little over a year ago and I still have dreams about him. My take on it is that the dreams are God's way of comforting us when we lose someone that we love. It is different for everyone - some people feel arms encircling them when they are looking at their lost loved one's picture, some people feel as though their loved one is watching over them during a bad part of their life. It is all the same thing in my opinion, God sending down comfort to us in a form that we can understand. He is reminding us that life never really ends, it just goes on to another place to continue its existance.
If you do not believe in God you will not agree with my answer so I will tell you what some psychologists think that it is. The mind plays tricks on us all of the time, showing us memories that we cannot remember or do not want to remember in our waking hours, at night. It is also a defense mechanism, a protection so to speak for the mind, to prevent the stress level from becoming too great for our minds to bear. Our minds are very much like a plug-in outlet in your wall....if you put too much stuff in it at one time it will short circuit and stop working all together. The mind, when too much stress and anxiety is placed on it, will shut down so to speak, creating other forms of reality for itself to exist in....a reality that is much more tranquil than the one that is really there. When we are faced with something that we are really unprepared to deal with (the human mind cannot really comprehend death nor the ending of a long term relationship such as the one that you were in because to the mind it is another kind of death) our minds allow us to dream about a happier time or allows us to create a happier time when the people that we love are with us instead of seperated from us, by death or by choice.
Since I do not know the circumstances of your seperation I can only guess about what happened, if it was an amicable seperation or one that was created by just one party. However, I think that you miss what you had with him on some levels that you might not recognize. That would make your subconcious mind show him to you in a way that was consistant with your former relationship, despite the current lack of it. The present means little to the history in your mind. You know that he is not there, you know the reasons that he is not there and you know about the chances of a reconciliation between you two, but that does not change the history of the relationship that you have stored in your mind. In other words, what has happened has not changed your memories of the way that it used to be.
Maybe you still love your husband. Perhaps you are angry with him. Perhaps he is angry with you and that anger moves itself around in your life. All of these things could cause you to dream about him. It could also be just a strange occurance though without any meaning whatsoever. Only you know what the circumstances are in that area, as I said earlier I can only guess. Having said that, I would not put much thought into it if there was no cause that you can think of for it. About once a month I dream that I am back in highschool having to go through all of my old classes with a lot of people that I never meshed well with. It happens even when I do not see anyone that I attended school with or even when I am not thinking about or talking about my old school days. It is in my memory bank and my mind just decides to create a dream about it.
If I were you I would take the dreams about your dad as comfort and be glad that he is still present in your thoughts. As far as dreaming about your husband, ask yourself if there is any feeling there, in any form that is causing you to think of him. If there is no reason for it, ignore it. If there is, deal with those issues.
I hope that I answered your question. Please contact me again if I have been unclear about something or if I can help you in any way. I hope that everything works out for you. Best Wishes!
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