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my mom is a perfectionist. but i take after my dad, and i am as sloppy as can be, but in my room that's how i find stuff-on the floor, i can see everything. my dad tells me that i don't have to clean my room unless company comes over. Yet, the weekend after he says that my mom makes me clean and ORGANIZE my room. i tell her what dad said, and she yells at me. i tell her again, and i'm grounded for a month. my parents do this repeatedly. they make a promise, and then break it. and now my mom wants to know why we aren't 'close'. what do i do? i want to trust them, i have since i was little, but it hurts when you secretly know you can't trust anybody. help, please. i'm thirteen year old girl, but this has been going on for two years.
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First off, your parents are two different people and chances are they just haven't thought to sit down and make a joint resolution on room cleanliness. Give them some benefit of the doubt here and deal with them as individuals.
It sounds like the issue is really just with your mom, so you should tell her that you wish you were closer also, but feel like she'd rather nit-pick about your room condition than talk about what's going on in your lives. Try to figure out where she's coming from: why does she want your room to be clean? Can you compromise, and just promise to get the bed made and food out of there every 24 hours? It's really all about communication, and not the yelling kind, the real kind where you sit and talk.
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