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Problems with my Lady
I'm 14 years old, I'm a male, I'm in the 8th grade and my girlfriends in 9th. Recently I have been hearing some sketchy stuff about her, that shes flirty at school and all over some guys. I asked her about this and she told me that its not true, then I had heard about some things she'd done in her past, and asked her about that and she told me that she hadn't done any of the things I asked her about, and that they were just rumors, then I found out in detail of what she had done, the guys name, where, when, what. And confronted her about it, then she told the truth and said she had done those things with that guy but was scared/embarassed to tell me. And i told her that i was having trouble believing that she wasn't flirty at school, and she got upset and couldn't understand why i didn't believe her, I told her i didn't know what to believe because on one hand i want to believe her, on the other hand she lied to me blatently so I'm having trouble deciding wether or not to believe her??? Break-up, take some time off????? Now I try to call her cell phone and she doesn't pick up, we haven't talked in a week, but we are both very busy, her with cheer, me with wrestling.I like her, but I'm beginning to think if we're both busy, and I'm making an effort to call her and she never calls back, apparently i care more than her about our relationship... What should I do?!?!?!
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If shes already lied to you, dump her and if your tryin to work the relationship but shes not doing anything to keep yall together. Its over, and she wont answer her phone definetly a problem..Let it go.
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wow that is one hell of a relationship to be in the 8th grade sop i mean hell if she lied to you once what is going to stop her from doing it again and she knows your catching on to her and shes tring to run from you so i would say cut it off there are more honest and trustfull people out there that is why i date in my grade dude. keep your chin up and never stop smiling kidd!
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anonymous -
In my opinion, I think you should break up with her. Why because like you said, you apparently care more about the relationship. If she's not willing to work things out after this dispute, she's not committed to you and not worth it at all.
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly three years now, and what you're going through resembles one fight we had. I betrayed his trust once, and after that he had trouble believing my words just like your situation. Cuz after all, the mind tells you that once a person lies, they're most likely to do it again so you can't really trust them. He heard some things that I did, and I denied it cuz it was the truth, and he still didn't believe me. I did everything in my ability to prove to him that I was telling the truth. From experience, if your girlfriend is honest about not flirting, she'd try and prove it to you if she cared for you. And a busy schedule is no excuse for her not to pick up. The least she could do is reserve as little as 5 minutes to you.
I'm sorry, but your girlfriend sounds shady. Trust and communication are two of the most important foundations in a relationship. If she cannot fulfill both, find someone else.
Hope this helped!
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i can see why shes upset... its probably hard for her to tell you the truth since she really likes you... you should trust her because even though she didn't tell the truth the first time... she told the truth the second time you asked... if there is any proof that she is flirty in school... then you should take some time off... just keep trying her cell... maybe she is busier then you.... leave a message saying that you really care about her and want to make things work... and that you just want to talk because you care about your relationship... then tell her to please call back... your an awesome boyfriend because you care so much!
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let her call u
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im 14 and female ;D
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Drop her. You're wasting your time with her.
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Me, being a girl, know how it feels when a guy doesnt believe what you are saying. Trust is the main objective in a relationship. If you absolutly dont trust her, your going to get no were, and eventually your going to get hurt. But if you love her, hold on for a little. Hope it helps *
Rachel xO
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Well, since she sort of lied to you that she never did anything with any guy but then she told you that she did. If you people have been saying that she is flirty towards guys at her school, then it tells you that there is more to her than you expect. I think you should really dump your girlfriend, since you two are always busy and that you are having trouble believing things she has been telling you. If she never calls you back, then that tells you that you should move on. She should at least make the effort of calling you back and telling you why she isn't calling you back. Yes, sports may be the reason but should you be more important to her than cheerleading. Think about it. If she has lied but then told you about her past and such, you should dump her. Just decide what you want to do but make sure it's a good choice.
-Karen
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DUMP THE FREAKIN' LOSER! seriously dude..
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