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hey ok here is the thing i know its a lil confusin but plz try and help..last night 2 of my closest friends one as my best friend and one whom i know and im a lil close with who i saw twice, they both r in 8th then me so there still in the jr. high so i dont know what goes on between them since im in the high school now. well my friend comes on and tells me that my friend slapped him across the face and called him a jack@$$...but then again i dont blame her bc i would have done the same thing most likely...the thing is that i still want to be friends with him but i dont know if i want to, i dont want my BFF to get mad..though we have gotten into a fight over the summer me. vs. her n my X-BFF and anyways we became friends again and all n my X-BFF was ok with that...now i dont know if i could do this because i miss him and i do want to see him again..i just dk where i could go to hang out with him n still be friends bc im not allowed to go to the movies with guys nor can i go to their houses or have them over till im 16...we have gone to the mall twice but she was with us so i dont think the mall would be such a gr8 idea...he said well see how things work out between us and well work from there on where we can see each other or we would just have to wait till next school year to see each other again..which i dont know bc she'll also be in the school with us and i really know what to do...
i know she liked him and i liked him too @ the time but he was in a grade younger so i know i wouldnt be able to see him much till next year...so i just backed off think i may like him...i dk i how that would effect her..i asked them both if they would ever be friends again..she said she didnt know n he said he doubts it...im feel like im stuck in the middle of this and i dont want to take sides..since i was right there on-line in the chat when the whole fight broke out.
btw he is in a grade younger...yet he is 2 months older so he is now 15
(i just asked her on-line if she was ok with me being friends with him but could she be lying?)
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You shouldn't just stop talking to this guy because your friend and him aren't getting along. I know it's hard being in the middle, but you can't just give up on the friendship because of her and him. You need to talk to her about this and explain to her. Tell her that you want to be friends with him. You know they'll never be friends again but you can't just ditch him, because he didn't do anything to you. This is between her and him and it shouldn't effect your friendship with him. If she doesn't understand that, she's not being a good friend. She'd probably do the samething if she was in your shoes. You have to talk to her though, it's the best thing to do. As for hanging out with this guy, you could go to the mall. I know you said it wouldn't be a good idea, but it sounds like it'll work out great. Maybe one of your other friends (a girl), could invite him and his friends over and you guys can hangout together. Go to the park and meet him up there or even at the movies. And I don't know for sure if she's lying to you or not, that is why you must talk to her. Tell her to tell you the truth, even if it's bad, you want to know the truth about this.
♥ Krissy
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Wow, this is a tough situation to be in. You can still be friends with this guy because you haven't done anything, only your friend has. Your friend shouldn't have slapped him and called him a "jackass" so she is the one who shouldn't be friends with this guy. You aren't in the middle of this, you just know what happened and how each person feels. You need to just let them work this out. If this guy said that he doubts that he will be friends with your friend again and your friend said she didn't know, then they probably won't. You don't have to ask her if you can be friends with this guy because you didn't take part in this and you have the right to be his friend without your friend's permission. If you can't date until you are 16 years old, then you should just wait until next year to "hang out" with this guy more often. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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