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he thinks everyones racist
My ex who is now single again says he is better of being single because girls parents are always racist. I don't know what to say to him but I feel bad because hes really sad and stuff. How could I tell him that I still care and wanna be with him? Because he says he only gets respect by the sports he plays but thats wrong. I rate high.
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Well, first i think you should flirt with him, let him know u intrested. Maybe have your friends ask him if hes intrested to, and if he is, just try to hang out w/ him alot hopefully he'll get the hint and ask ya' out!
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Tell him you respect him for the sports he plays, but you also respect him because of the type of guy he is. And tell him your parents aren't racist. Because that's probably a hard thing for him to deal with thinking about.
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The saddest thing is, the young man is probably right. In highschool one or two of my black male friends seemed interested in me. I liked them and thought going out would be wonderful. I never did though. The biggest thing keeping me from acting on any of those mutual attractions was what my parents and grandparents would think if I brought him home. I felt bad about not being able to get past it, but I Love my family and knew the damage that could be done to me and whatever man I chose to bring home with my family's racist disapproval. I never cared enough about any of these guys to break from my own race in dating, but I have always felt like a coward for it just the same. The world is changing daily and couples of mixed race have an easier time fitting in to one another's families, but people who would never think twice about saying they are not racist and mean it, still hesitate to push through the barriers of social conventions from the past. Don't discount his concerns as groundless. He may be well loved and respected for far more than his sports ability, but he could also be dead on about the families of the girls he has dated. If you want him, let him know your regard is the one that matters. Not your family's. Sometimes families can accept, but don't expect it to be a simple matter. I still hear comments about the Hispanic man my cousin married. They call him "mystery man." No one really has a problem with him, but he does not fit in and it is hard for him to talk to his wife's circle of relatives. Good luck to you!
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Ask why he thinks everyone is racist. I mean, if you care that much about him then you should tell him. Let him know how you feel so that maybe he'll relize that he still likes you too. And if not, then remember that there are plenty other hot guys out there be it black or white. Oh, and tell him that there are many hot blck guys out there and that although some people are racist, not all are.
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