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CONFUSED
Okay lets start my saying im 13 years old. I am dating a 17 year old. My parents along with his parents think it's a bad idea because of the age difference. I havent been able to get ahold of him and talk to him about it. I also like some one who is closer to my age. But does kind of bad things like drinking isnt a problem to me since i do it but he does ciggerates and weed and stuff. He told me he wouldnt pressures me in to anything and he told me he likes me to.HELP ME IM CONFUSSED!!!
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i think you should dump the 17 year old because in a year it's going to be illegal. you should go out with the guy who is closer to your age. he may do bad stuff but since he said he won't pressure you into doing it then thats good. just don't be around him when he does that stuff. hope i helped.
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Well if you cant get ahold of this guy forget him..sounds like that was a waste of your time in a way.. and this other guy thats closer to your age might not pressure you into anythingyou dont wanna do when you SOBER.. cause when your drunk he could easily take advantage of you.. and i think you should forget that guy..even tho us girls love us a lil bad boy but maybe you should try to work things out with the 17 year old..Hope i helped..~*DEZ*~ thuggirl041790
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drinking is worse for you then smoking babe and your 13 and hes 17...i can see why he wont return your calls if i had a 17 yr old son i wouldnt let him date a 13 year old. you have the rest of your life to do that but id say just move on.
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I'm not going to assume that you guys are sexually active with each other. I would love to think that this guy really only has the utmost noble wants from you. The danger is if you guys are sexually active and continue to see each other, in most states, it is illegal for a 18 year old and a 13/14 year old to see each other in that way. Your parents could file charges against him. If you guys do have another connection though- and can abstain from that kind of activity till you're of age- that's great.
The age difference doesn't make much of a difference once you're both over 18. I have friends who are going out with 18yo's (ie 8 year age difference).
I think that the two of you really need to talk to each other. I'm assuming that you're in middle school and he is in high school, so in school might be difficult. However, you just need to find a time to talk about where your relationship is going- and all the consequences that can occur from it.
I've seen a lot of self- destructive kids who sound like the guy that is your age. At that age though, I don't know if he is willing to give up his addictions for you. ALthough you drink (hopefully just socially and its not becoming a problem), when it involves an addiction (which ciggies are known to do), it becomes very difficult to fight that for his love. It is a battle for a lot of older women who have someone like that in their life so I can't imagine how hard it is for someone your age. He will try to make you smoke and drink, because he wants a companion on the things that he love (why make him choose when he can combine the two).
I know that it is not an easy decision, but whatever you choose, I wish you happiness in it.
Yours,
Arun
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i know how you feel -- but its all up to YOU! if you feel confused well then i think thats your answer. give it some time, a break, in other words, it'll give you more time to think about it all! =) But I find that strange, i mean yeah it happens but, I think you should just forget him . All guys are alike, so don't get hurt hun. Be careful and try talking to that one kid thats from your age group. Well sorry I'm not much help, drop one in my inbox if you need more! =) Tell me how it goes!
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dont go for eather 1 ! break up with the 17 year old because thats like a big age difference and im sure hes only wanting some from you * not to be mean but yea* and the other dude might just be lieng in pressering you .. im not sure but it think you can do better ! x0
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Break up with him. before you get hurt. Do you think hes going to tell you he'll be pressuring you? Nope. Hes lying, I'm sorry...my 20 year old sister (who has a lot of experience) said that a 17 year old would only want sex from a 13 year old. simple as that. I'm not trying to be mean, I just dont want you to get pregnant or have your heart broken by this guy!
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