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divorce
well...okay...i just got a comment from you on my site....and you told me tat you give good advice...and well lets face it...i really am not the type of person who goes to their parents when they want advice....so here i go....this prolly sounds really stupid....but my cousin is my age 15 and her parents have been fighting for the last year..and just a couple of months ago (about 6) her dad moved out of the house. thinking that if they had time seperated things would work out....well things didnt...they got worse....and now her parents are getting a divorce...and she has 2 younger siblings tat she will have to take care of now...cause her mom will have to work a whole lot more...and i dont know how to help her b/c my cuz is over 6 1/2 hours away!!...yea we e-mail..n stuff...but i dont have any advice for her....except to pray... could you help me plz??!!
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Dear Writer,
Divorce is a scary reality. So many people are getting divorced everyday that it leaves one to wonder how children of today are coping with the distruction of their families. It saddens me to even think about it but its something all too common these days.
I think it's fantastic of you to want to help your cousin in her familys time of need. Im sure knowing that she has you to depend on brings her much comfort.
Im sorry to say, but I have no magical answer for you. Since you both are so young and too far apart to physically be there for one another there isnt a whole lot you can physically do for her.
But I know now during these hard times she will need someone to talk to. She'll need someone to comfort her when she feels like she has no control over anything that's going on in her family right now.
Tell her that difficult situations always make people stronger. Tell her she'll now grow closer to her siblings then she ever thought imaginable. Tell her things will get easier, this is the truth. Things may seem bleak now but she still has her siblings and no one can ever take them from her.
If at all possible, perhaps during long weekends or on holidays, try and spend time with her. Help her take care of her siblings or help get a baby sitter so you two can go out and have some fun together. Even though she has all of these new responsiblies she must not forget she is still a teen. Make sure she has fun every now and then. Make sure she stays happy.
You are a wonderful person for wanting to help your cousin. She is very lucky to have you. I wish you two the best of luck. Keep your heads up and never forget to have fun.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
P.S. Please leave me feedback so I may better advise others.
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