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strange situation
A friend came to me with a problem. She's been involved with a man for about 10 years now. She recently rekindled a relationship she had with a much older man. Her problem, she loves them both, but is torn between them. The older man was a friend of her fathers and has more of an infatuation with him, meanwhile her feelings towards the other man is starting to fizzle out. What should she do?
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It seems likely to me that she's restarting the old relationship to escape from her current one. The older man may feel safe because of the connection to her father or being with him may feel more exciting because it's illicit. Neither is a good basis for a relationship. If she's with him to get away from her long time SO, neither relationship is likely to work out. So, my advice, without knowing more about why her current relationship is "fizzling," is to stop seeing the "other man" and go to a counselor with her current SO.
Good luck to your friend,
S
Ok, she needs to dump both of these guys. She wouldn't be feeling these emotions for the older gentleman if she were really in love with the guy she is currently with. Dump them both and start over.
J
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Perhaps neither man is right for her. If her feelings for the current man she's involved with aren't very strong anymore than there is no point to continue the relationship. But an infatuation may not be the best reason to start up another relationship. If your friend does want to see how things turn out with the older man she should probably wait a bit and take things slowly since she has been involved for 10 years.
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well i think she should go with the man that she has known and probly love for ten years its gross dateing a man that older and a friend of your fathers. you can put like this think about dating your father. i mean you dont want tot date your father
hope i helped
good luck
allison
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Well thats kinda....Weird...Having feeling for her fathers friend?? Anyways. If she doesnt care for the one that shes had a 10 year relationship i can understand that. 1 because shes already tried stuff with another man which means she didnt really care for the 10 year relationship in the 1st place. You would probibly disagree with me about her not caring for him but if she really did she wouldnt have cheated on him. Dont let her make things worse and have her keep on loveing the 10 year relationship man. Thats just ruining him and her together. If you tell him now there wont be any bad things to come in the future...Like what if he proposed to her? Then shed be really stuck..So choose one or the other...If shed rather be with the old man then have her get with him. Stop playing the other guy and get things strait! Sorry this was so forward but i dont particularly like cheaters! But yes...Tell them the truth...Dont wait till the 10th of never!! Hope i helped...
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