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Help me move on know that he i sno good but love him
I am 26 years old female and have been with my ex 6 years 3 of which we were engaged and had bought a house togtehr.
I caught my ex finance cheating on me 6 months ago we sold house and I left but we remained in contact it was usually me initiating contact and wanting to know what he was doing why he cheated etc. He is now with someone else for the past 5 months he cheated on her with me 4 months ago and I could have again but said no. He now tells me he loves her and wants to remain friends but told me not to phone him he would txt me etc in case he is with her. He conatcts me when he is on his own whcih is rare I have been trying the no contact rule whcih I know is the best but is so hard. I was good and ignored hsi texts (2) so therefore he rang this morning three times then turned up outside my work as I never answered calls he was wondering whether I had sold the engagement ring and if so could he have half the money as he needs to pay for his exams he couldn’t even talk about it as he was running for the bus to meet his new girlfriend. I was using ring as an excuse to talk to him before hand but after having no contact was so determined to be strong. Yet now that he is initating contact it is only confusing me all over again. He was also asking how I was and hoping I was well yet at the same time telling me he and his girlfrind were out SUn at his staff do which I never missed with him and had a great night. I still really love him he tells me cares then tells me he loves this new girl.
I was good then fell into temptation and rang him after he left my work. I rang off straight away as he was woth her so I txted to see did she sort him out. I know I should not have txted him when he was with her as this will only give him ammunition to blame me instead of me having a go at him for asking for the money while seeing someone else. Should i ignore his calls and restain myslef from phoning him feel I am totally obessed with him and her and can't move on feeling really crap.
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Tell him that you are no longer interested in talking to or pursuing him. And then proceed to ignore him. The engagement ring should promptly be returned to him because it was part of a promise that was not fullfilled. I know this is hard, but if you can't stay away from him, you will not heal.
Try to find something else to do. Go out with friends, get a hobby, etc. It will take a long time to heal, several months for every year you were together.
If there is someone who can provide counseling to you, I would highly recommend it.
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