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Ok I have been dating this guy for about 2 months and hes almost 16 and im 13 but a few days ago we started talking about sex and he said he would never wear a condom and after 6 months is a good time to have sex but I don’t thing it is imp 13 years old I feel like hes not respecting my feelings and we live right next door so he expects something and last night I cried so hard and I felt like I was going to throw up I was so nervous please help me mandee!!!! I see all of your questions you’ve answered and they are excellent you’re a really good columnist!!
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**kristen**
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Thank a ton, Kristen!! I'm so glad you asked me this, I relate to it so well from previous relationships.
I'm sure you probably heard of this, but this is the truth so: If he has no respect for you and your feelings, he's simply not worth having around. You know what can happen if he didn't wear a condom and you don't take the pill. Sweetie, never ever ever let someone tell you what to do if you know it's wrong. And if you don't feel comfortable with anything, don't do it. Just because you don't feel safe doing this doesn't mean you are a loser. You know what? I respect that so much! You're the only one who can make your own decisions for you, so why not make the right one? And if he keeps telling you he won't wear a condom and you do it because of him, why would you put yourself through that? Could you trust him enough to support your baby if you got pregnant? Or would he walk out and leave you their with your child?
I think it's best if you ask yourself questions before you make a decision. Even if you are daring, this is the kind of decision that could change your life forever. Most of your hopes for the future would be gone. I think you also need to talk to him. Since he is older, he will pressure you to do things that you don't want to. And if you say no and he continues maybe it's time to move on. Please don't make yourself sick over this. You have such intelligence and you know what's right in your heart. You're only doing yourself a favor, sweetie. I've been through a relationship in the past and it turned into hell. If a guy thinks he can control you on one thing, what makes you think that he won't try to push his limits even further? Never be the one being told what to do. Speak up and tell him if you don't fell comfortable doing what he says. You owe that to yourself, honestly. You deserve a good relationship..so make sure you know when to get out of a bad one and start a good one.
If you want to talk to me about this more personal or what to hear what happened to me, you can IM me. I just want to make sure that you don't go through what I did. Anyways, Happy Holidays, sweetheart!! Try to enjoy your Christmas Break...vacations: so don't stress! Haha love ya! :D
Love,
Mandee
***Aww thank you so much! That was awesome feedback haha...it always makes my day to know that I helped someone! You're such a sweetheart, good luck with everything!***
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