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This is kind of inbetween friendship and love life
I know your specialty probably isn't either, but I wanted an intelligent opinion. I'm asking my favorite columnists and the pool this question in hopes of finding a "light-shining" answer.
I've had this crush on this girl for quite some time. It's gotten to the point where I'll buy stuff I don't really need, nor do I really want, just to talk to her. She always seems happy to see me and always gives me a big hug before I leave. The problem is I have no idea how old she is. I'm not the type of guy who judges people who date younger or older people, but it seems to worry my when I'm involved. I'm 20, what if she's only 15 or 16. She looks and kind of acts young, so I'm worried. What do you think the dating age limit should be for someone like myself?
The other problem. Earlier today, I saw scars and cuts on her rist. It doesn't look like something an accident would have caused. I know she can't really die from cuts on arm, but the scars aren't exactly good for her either. How should I go about asking her where they're from? Is it even my business to ask such a question? What if she obviously lies to me about the scar's origins? Should I just drop it then or what?
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Well, it certainly can't hurt to talk to her. Beyond that, I'm not sure how to devine her age - you could cut her in half and count the rings, but I think there are laws or something that prohibit that... you could attempt context clues with small-talk about school? Just a thought. If it turns out that she is 15-16, the age difference at that level is huge, and you'd be treading dangerous waters - I'd recommend against it. 18-19 would not be a big deal, but below that the age difference can be too much (not even considering the legal ramifications)...<br>
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About the cuts? You can ask, but I'll guess that she'd likely lie. Mind you, a girl I knew would give you her whole suicide-attention story if one asked about her scars, but I think she was "rare" (and thank god for that). Cutting is such a strange thing to me - I simply cannot grasp it, nor do I think I want to.
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