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Thanks for the advice, that was excellent. But I think my problem is that I am not too great at building relationships and friendships, which is where my reputation for more crazy friend chick comes from. Also no-one has ever asked me out, so I have never refused or openly said I don't want one. The lads I have my eye on are my friends, which is partly the problem. Firstly we have a naturally teasing relationship, i.e. taking the mick at every oppurtunity. That's just the sort of person I am, I do it with my mates and family too. The second thing might be that I have these thick framed wide red glasses which I really like but don't want to change. Well, I would prefer slightly thinner black frames but I can't afford them. And I am also seem as a bit of a goth, which means I am a rock chick but they are too dim to understand. The main lad I fancy is this really quiet rock kid, but I've only spoken to him once briefly. He sits near me in 2 classes, but both are in front of mates and there is nowhere else I would see him. What can I do? Sorry to load all this on you at want, but this advicenator is realy great. Thank you so much :)
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Okay - I think it works in your favour that the main guy you like is someone you don't know well. if he was, and you had that friendly/mocking/fun sort of relationship...then you might be stuck in a certain box in his mind.
But if you haven't really talked? You're in a prime position to ask him out. Maybe get to class early, or leave late - or arrange to be walking in/out at the same time as him? Strike up a conversation, or ask if he'd want to meet up sometime. If you approach him, then you don't have to worry about him approaching you.
I do understand that it's scary to ask people out, but I also see that unless you do it, you might just always be everyone's really cool friend - and never anyone's girlfriend. I'd ask out Quiet Boy, see what happens, and go from there. And the other guys that are your friends? Is there one of them you fancy that you'd feel comfortable talking to about this?
Not specifically about you and him, but in a more general way. Like, 'I feel like everyone just sees me as a friend and would never ask me out. Do you think that's accurate?' Maybe these guys are just meant to be your friends and that's it...or maybe they just need to know that you're open to taking things to the next level.
I will say that dating people you were close friends with is the most terrifying thing to start, but the MOST gratifying relationship you can imagine.
And honestly? I think your glasses sound funky, I like how open you are, and I really think it's just a matter of time before someone notices you in a way which is definitely not the way they would notice a friend.
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