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Me and lads
Can I ask u a question like this? Hmm...
Anywho, I am a very much me person. I've always been a bit different and rarely on purpose, I am naturally a bit hairy, bit of a geek, I'm prepared to be quite sociable but rarely get asked, and would love a boyfriend. I don't want a boyfriend to fit in neccessarily, but to be mymate and to make out with. I've only had 1 boyf who was like 3 years younger than me on holiday. I'm not exactly willing to change who I am but I really would love a boyfriend, and I kinda have my eye on a few lads.
However I think I am seen as the crazy smart chick who would never be girlfriend material. What advice do you have?
Thanks, Sarah
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I think you should wait until you can be known as the crazy smart chick who has a boyfriend who adores her.
You're right in not wanting to change; any guy you attract as a result of acting differently is not a guy who likes the real you.
The solution? Well, what about those guys you are interested in - are you their friend? Have you never spoken to them?
I'll say the same thing I would say to anyone...it's about having confidence in who you are (and it seems you do), approaching people, and building friendships/relationships with like-minded people. Strike up a conversation with a guy and see where it leads - why do you think you have the reputation of not being girlfriend material? If there are specific things which lead people to believe that (you never accepting dates, you openly saying you don't want a boyfriend), then you can work on that. If none of those things are happening, it might just be in your head.
For all you know, a guy has his eye on YOU because he likes smart, quirky people (and we really are the best sort of people!!). As time goes on and your world expands, you'll natually end up around people who are like you, whether this happens at university or in whatever job you choose. In the meantime, maybe start making an effort. If you want to be sociable but are not asked, then do the asking. Put yourself out there a bit.
With no risk, there is no payoff. You can do this; share your shiny, wonderful, weird self with other people.
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