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ok thers this guy that i thought i liked but he's really pushie if u know what i mean. he freaks out if i dont tell him i love him or if he thinks i didnt mean it when i hugged him... it's really weird. i feel weird talking to him now because i don't like him anymore and he thinks i still love him. we never actually went out or anything, we just went to the park together alot and played basketball and skateboarded and talked, but nothing more. besides the one time when we were sitting on a bench we... well nevermind thats a long story. and i tried to tell him the other day i didnt want to go to the movies and he started freaking out hes like "i thought you liked me! laura is there somthing you need to tell me? we have to talk don't we? theres somthing wrong." and i can't just go up to him and say "Lou, i don't like you." because hed get so mad. i don't know what i should do.
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if u dont like him anymore, then dont worry about him getting mad. just sit him down n talk it all out, just like you told me.. and if he doesnt understand(which he prolly wont) then just let him know that he shouldnt expect u to like him forever so just let it out
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i think you should talk to him b/c you dont wanna lead him on and lie about although to me it aint actually technically lieing b/c i am in a very simular situation. you should talk to him though and explain how you feel just let him know that your just not into him m=nomore and you drifted away. its better than hurting him and making him tink that something is there when it dissappeared a long while ago. talkingt to him is the best way to get him off your back constantly. i do junderstand though!Please rate me and ask me nething if you need it! Tori
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Hi Sweetie,
Wow... well... this sounds like a difficult situation. ...I think you're too scared of hurting his feelings. (Sorry if I'm mistaken... I'm just assuming...) and that is sweet of you. But you have to realize the best thing to do is let him know how you feel so he an move on. I have a feeling you already know this... what you're finding difficult is actually TELLING him that he needs to move on.
The movie thing is a good example. Tell him "no I don't want to go. We do need to talk." Once you start talking he'll start assuming the worst. If he says "don't you love me" don't assure his fears. Tell him something like, "it's not that. I still care about you. But I just think we need some time apart." You don't have to say THAT but somthing a bit like that...
Once you tell him this expect him to react angry, hurt, even maybe confused. There's nothing you can do about this but deal with it. It's human nature. Give him time and space. In the end it was best for both of you.
If you're afraid he'll get physical or something do the break-up in a public place or in your porch or something (with-people inside the house).
I wish you luck. And I wish him luck as well. May you both find happiness... someway. Hope I helped. ~Blessed Be...
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I just had a very similar situation.. I was going out with this guy and he thought I liked him but I realized that I really didnt like him so I had to break up with him. If I were you, I would just say something like "Hey, ur a really cool guy and any girl would be so lucky to date you, but I just don't think I'm that girl. I don't think its fair to either one of us if we keep going out because you deserve to be with someone who you really like and who really likes you back." Maybe you could say something like "It has nothing to do with you.. I'm just not ready to date right now." I hope I helped, good luck!
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THats a tough situation, you deffinitly should just tell him you dont like him anymore. and if he gets upset then he gets upse, he cant control your feelings, only you can.. and if you guys didnt even go out he shouldnt be obsessed with you.. did u tell each other you loved eachother? because love is a difficult thing to get over and you shouldnt say it if you dont mean it.. Just tell him and im so sure things will be fine, he might be upset at first but hey, hell get over it! GoOdLucK!
-MeGan*
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